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You can say no to your teenager : and other strategies for effective parenting in the 1990s
Shalov, Jeanette.
Publication Information:
Reading, Mass. : Addison-Wesley, [1991]

Physical Description:
xii, 224 pages ; 22 cm
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Includes index.
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HQ799.15 .Y68 1991 Adult Non-Fiction Central Closed Stacks

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Booklist Review

Two volumes offer parents the means and methods for dealing with their adolescent children. DeSisto, who operates two schools for teenagers, writes of action more than analysis. He creates a series of catagories with easy-to-identify names, fills in an outline of behaviors, and suggests ways that parents can help youngsters through life's difficulties. His labels are generally helpful, though they tend to be one-dimensional. Cases cited are somewhat simplistic as well. DeSisto's basic points, however, are clearly presented and sensible. Patience and communication take top priority with problem youngsters, as does being supportive. An interesting overview of parent-teen dilemmas.Parents who have successfully guided their offspring through childhood will appreciate Shalov's calm, practical look at the coming teenage turbulence. Helpful ideas abound: when trouble does come, step back and reflect; focus on important aggravations, and ignore the remainder if possible; consider all behavior meaningful; etc. Further suggestions are made on how to recognize messages and on responding even if you feel you cannot. Consequences of not saying no when it is called for are also noted. The ever-present problems of drugs and premature sexual behavior are considered here, but the chief emphasis is on avoiding difficulties before they happen. Realistic examples illustrate the many points made. A solid primer for the parenting shelves. ~--Virginia Dwyer

Publisher's Weekly Review

The joys and perplexities of parenting adolescents are explored in case studies from a group of psychologists and counselors who practice in New York, New Jersey and Connecticut. The scenarios presented illustrate the central, unchanging challenge to parents of teenagers: providing stability while encouraging independence. Particular attention is also given to the special conditions of the '90s, such as single-parent or blended families, that especially demand of parents the ability to say no appropriately and lovingly. The authors emphasize the importance of parents transmitting values, the common thread among all issues facing POAs (parents of adolescents). Looking beyond behavior to meaning is the significant advice of this realistic guide. (Feb.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved