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Divorce is not the answer : a change of heart will save your marriage
Pransky, George S.
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Publication Information:
Blue Ridge Summit, PA : TAB Books, 1990.
Physical Description:
xii, 154 pages ; 21 cm
General Note:
Includes index.
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Departing from current therapeutic and self-help approaches to saving troubled marriages, the author of this work identifies the most prevalent myths about what constitutes a healthy relationship and shows how these myths actually increase, rather than relieve, marital discord. Using case studies, he offers alternatives to these myths and the solutions offered by marriage counsellors, proposing that the conflicts arising in most of today's marriages are illusions created by faulty perceptions and a lack of understanding for normal human emotions. He attempts to show that marital problems are neutral situations viewed from a negative state of mind - not physical realities needing to be actively diagnosed, analyzed and resolved.

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Booklist Review

Pransky's book offers a different perspective on resolving marriage problems. Analytical readers may sputter through the sometimes-sentimental or too-simple resolutions and the author's conviction that problems are not real, but Pransky is not impressed with analysis anyway. What keeps things interesting here is the constant reminder of the very real value of warm emotional response between two people. Pransky touches on common problems--compatibility, communication, moods, post~honeymoon blahs, and commitment--reminding readers that friendly feelings can make the biggest problems seem small, the smallest gestures seem grand. This commonsensical reasoning is supported with many examples of specific behavior and case studies of couples who have benefited from using it. Readers exhausted by the struggle to enjoy their partners will find some balance along with unfailing optimism here. To be indexed. ~--Virginia Dwyer