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Bailing out : the healthy way to get out of a bad relationship and survive
Lubetkin, Barry.
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New York : Prentice Hall Press, 1991.
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226 pages ; 23 cm
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HM132 .L83 1991 Adult Non-Fiction Central Closed Stacks

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Booklist Review

This guide steers nicely through some of life's most treacherous waters, offering a variety of approaches and suggestions well targeted to common worries. The authors distinguish between problems that can be solved and those that call for "bailing out," and they examine how people get into hopeless situations and why many remain there. They also are sensitive to the passive avoidance that often extends the misery unnecessarily, providing exercises to move the reader from vague, unhappy uncertainty to a calmly reasoned state that permits action. The perspective is clearly supportive, with helpful examples pointing the way toward solutions. Suggestions on how to leave a relationship, and what to expect when it's over, see the project through with due caution, realism, and hope. ~--Virginia Dwyer

Publisher's Weekly Review

Cognitive therapist Lubetkin, clinical director of the Institute for Behavior Therapy in New York City, and Oumano, who teaches communications at City University of New York, offer concrete suggestions and exercises in this guide for those about to end intimate relationships. Using the principles of cognitive behavior and social learning theories, the authors break down the often apparently overwhelming task of evaluating clearly an existing relationship; with a nod to salvaging the redeemable partnership, they then parcel out the process of ``bailing out'' into discrete, manageable steps. Addressed to dissatisfied spouses as well as partners in less formal arrangements--who, in the authors' view, have probably added to their suffering by having put off their decision-making for too long--this direct, comprehensive, emphatically unsentimental approach for navigating the difficulties in breaking up delivers a positive program likely to help many. First serial to Cosmopolitan; author tour. (Feb.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved