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Coming out : an act of love
Eichberg, Rob.
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New York : Dutton, 1990.
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xvii, 279 pages ; 23 cm
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HQ75.7 .E43 1990 Adult Non-Fiction Central Closed Stacks

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Booklist Review

"We do not need to be treated specially--only equally." According to Eichberg, equality is possible only with collective and individual public acknowledgment of sexual orientation, i.e., "coming out." He draws from workshops he has conducted as a clinical psychologist and from dozens of letters to illustrate positive techniques for increasing functional power and personal liberation in order to assist the reader's own coming out. The book's major weakness lies in its failure to deal adequately with lesbians: among all the letters and quotations, only one comes from a lesbian (although there is also a letter from her daughter and another from another lesbian's father). Even the impact of AIDS (which has increased five-fold among women in recent years) and problems in the workplace (lesbians, who are mostly self-supporting, have always been dicey about coming out at work) are dealt with in male terms. Apart from this failing, the book usefully promotes a practical, caring approach to a sensitive subject. Annotated directory of selected national organizational resources appended. ~--Marie Kuda

Publisher's Weekly Review

Clinical psychologist Eichberg has written a practical, step-by-step self-help guide for lesbians and gay men who wish to come out of the closet. Co-founder of a weekend coming-out workshop and of National Coming-Out Day, Eichberg draws on his professional experience as he guides readers toward self-esteem and suggests ways to cope with fears of being rejected or disowned; with feelings of isolation, guilt, powerlessness; with their own defensive anger and aggressiveness. This exceptionally well-written manual includes sections on coming out to parents, friends, spouses, business associates and employers; on integrating sexuality with one's religious beliefs; and on the sociopolitical dimensions of coming out during the AIDS epidemic. Piercingly honest letters from workshop participants are interwoven with Eichberg's insightful advice. This powerful book will also be helpful to heterosexuals who seek a better understanding of gay relatives and friends. (Oct.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved