The art of intimacy -- Our deep need -- A sexual famine -- Failure of the sexual revolution -- Is porn for losers? -- Loosening sexual tension -- Too much of a good thing -- Becoming sexual experts -- Goal-oriented sex -- Eating ourselves to death -- Captured by desire -- Erotic fantasy -- Passionate connectedness -- Give a woman what she wants -- Needing to be needed -- Masculine duality -- Loss of feminine love -- Cheating : it's not all about sex -- Unavailability -- Mystery -- Forbiddeness -- Vertical discovery -- Learning to make love -- Building connection -- Being jealous -- Channeling your femininity -- Channeling your masculinity -- Parents are still lovers -- Practicing passionate connectedness.