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Enough as she is : how to help girls move beyond impossible standards of success to live healthy, happy, and fulfilling lives
Simmons, Rachel, 1974- author.
First edition.
Publication Information:
New York, NY : Harper, an imprint of HarperCollinsPublishers, [2018]

Physical Description:
xxiv, 270 pages ; 24 cm
Offers advice to help parents guide teenage girls to recognize and reject perfectionist messages that lead to self-doubt, unfulfilling relationships, and fears of failure, and teach them self-compassion, how to take healthy risks, and the importance of finding support.

"For many girls today, the drive to achieve is fueled by brutal self-criticism and an acute fear of failure. Though young women have never been more 'successful'--outpacing boys in GPAs and college enrollment--they have also never struggled more. On the surface, girls may seem exceptional, but internally they are anxious and overwhelmed, feeling that, no matter how hard they try, they will never be smart enough, successful enough, pretty enough, thin enough, popular enough, or sexy enough. Rachel Simmons has been studying young women for two decades, and her research plainly shows that girl competence does not equal girl confidence--nor does it equal happiness, resilience, or self-worth. Backed by vivid case studies, Simmons warns that we have raised a generation of young women so focused on achieving that they avoid healthy risks, overthink setbacks, and suffer from imposter syndrome--believing they are frauds. As they spend more time projecting an image of effortless perfection on social media, these girls are prone to withdraw from the essential relationships that offer solace and support and bolster self-esteem. Deeply empathetic and meticulously researched, [this book] offers a clear understanding of this devastating problem and provides practical parenting advice--including teaching girls self-compassion as an alternative to self-criticism, and instructing how to manage overthinking, resist the constant urge to compare themselves to peers, take healthy risks, navigate toxic elements of social media, prioritize self-care, and seek support when they need it. Rachel Simmons sounds an alarm to parents and educators, arguing that young women can do more than survive adolescence. They can thrive. [This book] shows us how"--Dust jacket.
Introduction: Not enough as she is -- The college application industrial complex -- Girls and social media: the virtual second shift -- Can we fat talk? -- Overcoming self-doubt and closing the confidence gap -- Mental treadmills: expecting the worst and overthinking -- Turning self-criticism into self-compassion -- The cult of effortless perfection and the rise of stress olympics -- Control + alt + delete: the merits of changing course -- We can't give our children what we don't have -- The senior year slap in the face: life after college -- Conclusion: "Dearest daughter: lean inside."
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