Introduction -- The exploded star: the myth of the right person -- The football coach and the cheerleader: what makes a good love story? -- Coal miner's daughter: love in context -- Girl meets boy: following love's script -- The problem of deservingness: our American obsession with Cinderella -- The black box: thoughts on the stories we don't tell -- I'm willing to lie about how we met: the tyranny of meeting cute -- Okay, honey: bad advice from good people -- If you can fall in love with anyone, how do you choose? -- The pleasures of ordinary devotion -- To fall in love with anyone, do this -- Arthur Aron's 36 questions.