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Title:
Triggers : creating behavior that lasts-- becoming the person you want to be
Author:
Goldsmith, Marshall, author.
Edition:
First edition.
Publication Information:
New York : Crown Business, [2015]

©2015
Physical Description:
xix, 244 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm
Summary:
Author and executive coach Marshall Goldsmith examines the environmental and psychological triggers that can derail us at work and in life.
General Note:
Includes index.
Language:
English
Contents:
Why don't we become the person we want to be? The immutable truths of behavioral change ; Belief triggers that stop behavioral change in its tracks ; It's the environment ; Identifying our triggers ; How triggers work ; We are superior planners and inferior doers ; Forecasting the environment ; The wheel of change -- Try. The power of active questions ; The engaging questions ; Daily questions in action ; Planner, doer, and coach ; AIWATT -- More structure, please. We do not get better without structure ; But it has to be the right structure ; Behaving under the influence of depletion ; We need help when we're least likely to get it ; Hourly questions ; The trouble with "good enough" ; Becoming the trigger -- No regrets. The circle of engagement ; The hazard of leading a changeless life.
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ISBN:
9780804141239
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Book

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Summary

Summary

In his powerful new book, bestselling author and world-renowned executive coach Marshall Goldsmith examines the environmental and psychological triggers that can derail us at work and in life.

Do you ever find that you are not the patient, compassionate problem solver you believe yourself to be? Are you surprised at how irritated or flustered the normally unflappable you becomes in the presence of a specific colleague at work? Have you ever felt your temper accelerate from zero to sixty when another driver cuts you off in traffic?

As Marshall Goldsmith points out, our reactions don't occur in a vacuum. They are usually the result of unappreciated triggers in our environment--the people and situations that lure us into behaving in a manner diametrically opposed to the colleague, partner, parent, or friend we imagine ourselves to be. These triggers are constant and relentless and omnipresent. The smell of bacon wafts up from the kitchen, and we forget our doctor's advice on lowering our cholesterol. Our phone chirps, and we glance instinctively at the glaring screen instead of looking into the eyes of the person we are with. So often the environment seems to be outside our control. Even if that is true, as Goldsmith points out, we have a choice in how we respond.

In Triggers, his most powerful and insightful book yet, Goldsmith shows how we can overcome the trigger points in our lives, and enact meaningful and lasting change.

Change, no matter how urgent and clear the need, is hard. Knowing what to do does not ensure that we will actually do it. We are superior planners, says Goldsmith, but become inferior doers as our environment exerts its influence through the course of our day. We forget our intentions. We become tired, even depleted, and allow our discipline to drain down like water in a leaky bucket. In Triggers, Goldsmith offers a simple "magic bullet" solution in the form of daily self-monitoring, hinging around what he calls "active" questions. These are questions that measure our effort, not our results. There's a difference between achieving and trying; we can't always achieve a desired result, but anyone can try. In the course of Triggers, Goldsmith details the six "engaging questions" that can help us take responsibility for our efforts to improve and help us recognize when we fall short.

Filled with revealing and illuminating stories from his work with some of the most successful chief executives and power brokers in the business world, Goldsmith offers a personal playbook on how to achieve change in our lives, make it stick, and become the person we want to be.


Author Notes

Marshall Goldsmith was born in Valley Station, Kentucky in 1949 and is an American author, professor, consultant, and executive coach. Dr. Goldsmith received his BS from Rose-Hulman Institute of Technology (1970), his MBA from Indiana University (1972), and his PhD from UCLA (1977).

Goldsmith was Assistant Professor and then Associate Dean at Loyola Marymount University's College of Business from 1976-2000. He is currently a professor at Alliant International University, he teaches executive education at Dartmouth College's Tuck School, and is a frequent guest speaker at leading business schools.

Goldsmith is a co-founder of Keilty, Goldsmith and Company and eventually of Marshall Goldsmith Partners. In November 2009 Dr. Goldsmith was recognized as one of the fifteen most influential business thinkers in the world in a study sponsored by The (London) Times and Forbes.

Dr. Goldsmith's books include: The Leader of the Future, The Organization of the Future - 2 (Choice Award), Coaching for Leadership, and Succession: Are You Ready? and Mojo: How to Get It, How to Keep It, and How to Get It Back When You Need It! He made The New York Times Best Seller List with his title Triggers: How Situations Shape Our Behavior--And How to Create Meaningful Change That Lasts.

(Bowker Author Biography)


Excerpts

Excerpts

Part One Why Don't We Become the Person We Want to Be? Chapter 1 The Immutable Truths of Behavioral Change As an executive coach, I've been helping successful leaders achieve positive lasting change in behavior for more than thirty-five years. While almost all of my clients embrace the opportunity to change, some are a little reluctant in the beginning. Most are aware of the fact that behavioral change will help them become more effective leaders, partners, and even family members. A few are not. My process of helping clients is straightforward and consistent. I interview and listen to my clients' key stakeholders. These stakeholders could be their colleagues, direct reports, or board members. I accumulate a lot of confidential feedback. Then I go over the summary of this feedback with my clients. My clients take ultimate responsibility for the behavioral changes that they want to make. My job is then very simple. I help my clients achieve positive, lasting change in the behavior that they choose as judged by key stakeholders that they choose. If my clients succeed in achieving this positive change-as judged by their stakeholders-I get paid. If the key stakeholders do not see positive change, I don't get paid. Our odds of success improve because I'm with the client every step of the way, telling him or her how to stay on track and not regress to a former self. But that doesn't diminish the importance of these two immutable truths: Truth #1: Meaningful behavioral change is very hard to do. It's hard to initiate behavioral change, even harder to stay the course, hardest of all to make the change stick. I'd go so far as to say that adult behavioral change is the most difficult thing for sentient human beings to accomplish. If you think I'm overstating its difficulty, answer these questions: * What do you want to change in your life? It could be something major, such as your weight (a big one), your job (big too), or your career (even bigger). It could be something minor, such as changing your hairstyle or checking in with your mother more often or changing the wall color in your living room. It's not my place to judge what you want to change. * How long has this been going on? For how many months or years have you risen in the morning and told yourself some variation on the phrase, "This is the day I make a change"? * How's that working out? In other words, can you point to a specific moment when you decided to change something in your life and you acted on the impulse and it worked out to your satisfaction? The three questions conform to the three problems we face in introducing change into our lives. We can't admit that we need to change-either because we're unaware that a change is desirable, or, more likely, we're aware but have reasoned our way into elaborate excuses that deny our need for change. In the following pages, we'll examine-and dispense with-the deep-seated beliefs that trigger our resistance to change. We do not appreciate inertia's power over us. Given the choice, we prefer to do nothing-which is why I suspect our answers to "How long has this been going on?" are couched in terms of years rather than days. Inertia is the reason we never start the process of change. It takes extraordinary effort to stop doing something in our comfort zone (because it's painless or familiar or mildly pleasurable) in order to start something difficult that will be good for us in the long run. I cannot supply the required effort in this book. That's up to you. But through a simple process emphasizing structure and self-monitoring I can provide you with the kick start that triggers and sustains positive change. We don't know how to execute a change. There's a difference between motivation and understanding and ability. For example, we may be motivated to lose weight but we lack the nutritional understanding and cooking ability to design and stick with an effective diet. Or flip it over: we have understanding and ability but lack the motivation. One of the central tenets of this book is that our behavior is shaped, both positively and negatively, by our environment-and that a keen appreciation of our environment can dramatically lift not only our motivation, ability, and understanding of the change process, but also our confidence that we can actually do it. I vividly recall my first decisive behavioral change as an adult. I was twenty-six years old, married to my first and only wife, Lyda, and pursuing a doctorate in organizational behavior at the University of California, Los Angeles. Since high school I had been a follicly challenged man, but back then I was loath to admit it. Each morning I would spend several minutes in front of the bathroom mirror carefully arranging the wispy blond stands of hair still remaining on the top of my head. I'd smooth the hairs forward from back to front, then curve them to a point in the middle of my forehead, forming a pattern that looked vaguely like a laurel wreath. Then I'd walk out into the world with my ridiculous comb-over, convinced I looked normal like everyone else. When I visited my barber, I'd give specific instructions on how to cut my hair. One morning I dozed off in the chair, so he trimmed my hair too short, leaving insufficient foliage on the sides to execute my comb-over regimen. I could have panicked and put on a hat for a few weeks, waiting for the strands to grow back. But as I stood in front of the mirror later that day, staring at my reflected image, I said to myself, "Face it, you're bald. It's time you accepted it." That's the moment when I decided to shave the few remaining hairs on the top of my head and live my life as a bald man. It wasn't a complicated decision and it didn't take great effort to accomplish. A short trim at the barber from then on. But in many ways, it is still the most liberating change I've made as an adult. It made me happy, at peace with my appearance. I'm not sure what triggered my acceptance of a new way of self-grooming. Perhaps I was horrified at the prospect of starting every day with this routine forever. Or maybe it was the realization that I wasn't fooling anyone. The reason doesn't matter. The real achievement is that I actually decided to change and successfully acted on that decision. That's not easy to do. I had spent years fretting and fussing with my hair. That's a long time to continue doing something that I knew, on the spectrum of human folly, fell somewhere between vain and idiotic. And yet I persisted in this foolish behavior for so many years because (a) I couldn't admit that I was bald, and (b) under the sway of inertia, I found it easier to continue doing my familiar routine than change my ways. The one advantage I had was (c) I knew how to execute the change. Unlike most changes-for example, getting in shape, learning a new language, or becoming a better listener-it didn't require months of discipline and measuring and following up. Nor did it require the cooperation of others. I just needed to stop giving my barber crazy instructions and let him do his job. If only all our behavioral changes were so uncomplicated. Truth #2: No one can make us change unless we truly want to change. This should be self-evident. Change has to come from within. It can't be dictated, demanded, or otherwise forced upon -people. A man or woman who does not wholeheartedly commit to change will never change. I didn't absorb this simple truth until my twelfth year in the "change" business. By then I had done intensive one-on-one coaching with more than a hundred executives, nearly all successes but a smattering of failures, too. As I reviewed my failures, one conclusion leapt out: Some people say they want to change, but they don't really mean it. I had erred profoundly in client selection. I believed the clients when they said they were committed to changing, but I had not drilled deeper to determine if they were telling the truth. Not long after this revelation, I was asked to work with Harry, the chief operating officer of a large consulting firm. Harry was a smart, motivated, hardworking deliver-the-numbers alpha male who was also arrogant and overdelighted with himself. He was habitually disrespectful to his direct reports, driving several of them away to work for the competition. This development rattled the CEO, hence the call to me to coach Harry. Harry talked a good game at first, assuring me that he was eager to get started and get better. I interviewed his colleagues and direct reports, even his wife and teenage children. They all told the same story. Despite his abundant professional qualities, Harry had an overwhelming need to be the smartest person in the room, always proving that he was right, winning every argument. It was exhausting and off-putting. Who could say how many opportunities had vanished because people loathed being pummeled and browbeaten? As Harry and I reviewed his 360-degree feedback, he claimed to value the opinions of his co-workers and family members. Yet whenever I brought up an area for improvement, Harry would explain point by point how his questionable behavior was actually justified. He'd remind me that he majored in psychology in college and then analyze the behavioral problems of everyone around him, concluding that they needed to change. In a mind-bending display of chutzpah, he asked me for suggestions in helping these people get better. In my younger days, I would have overlooked Harry's resistance. Mimicking his arrogance and denial, I would have convinced myself that I could help Harry where lesser mortals would fail. Fortunately I remembered my earlier lesson: Some people say they want to change, but they don't really mean it. It was dawning on me that Harry was using our work together as another opportunity to display his superiority and to reverse the misperceptions of all the confused people surrounding him, including his wife and kids. By our fourth meeting I gave up the ghost. I told Harry that my coaching wouldn't be helpful to him and we parted ways. (I felt neither joy nor surprise when I later learned that the firm had fired Harry. Evidently the CEO had concluded that an individual who actively resists help has maxed out professionally and personally.) I often call up my time with Harry as a stark example that, even when altering our behavior represents all reward and no risk-and clinging to the status quo can cost us our careers and relationships-we resist change. We're even defeated by change when it's a matter of life and death. Consider how hard it is to break a bad habit such as smoking. It's so daunting that, despite the threat of cancer and widespread social disapproval, two-thirds of smokers who say they'd like to quit never even try. And of those who do try, nine out of ten fail. And of those who eventually quit-namely the most motivated and disciplined people-on average they fail six times before succeeding. Compared to other behavioral changes in our lives, smoking is a relatively simple challenge. After all, it's a self-contained behavior. It's just you and your habit, a lone individual dealing with one demon. You either lick it or you don't. It's up to you-and only you-to declare victory. No one else gets a say in the matter. Imagine how much harder it is when you let other people into the process-people whose actions are unpredictable, beyond your control-and their responses can affect your success. It's the difference between hitting warm-up tennis balls over the net and playing a match where an opponent is rocketing the balls back at you. That's what makes adult behavioral change so hard. If you want to be a better partner at home or a better manager at work, you not only have to change your ways, you have to get some buy-in from your partner or co-workers. Everyone around you has to recognize that you're changing. Relying on other people increases the degree of difficulty exponentially. Let that last sentence sink in before you turn the page. This is not a book about stopping a bad habit such as smoking cigarettes or dealing with your late-night craving for ice cream. Nicotine and ice cream aren't the target constituency here. It's about changing your behavior when you're among people you respect and love. They are your target audience. What makes positive, lasting behavioral change so challenging-and causes most of us to give up early in the game-is that we have to do it in our imperfect world, full of triggers that may pull and push us off course. The good news is that behavioral change does not have to be complicated. As you absorb the methods in the following pages, do not be lulled into dismissiveness because my advice sounds simple. Achieving meaningful and lasting change may be simple-simpler than we imagine. But simple is far from easy. Chapter 2 Belief Triggers That Stop Behavioral Change in Its Tracks During the twelve years he was mayor of New York City, from 2001 to 2013, Michael Bloomberg was an indefatigable "social engineer," always striving to change people's behavior for the better (at least in his mind). Whether he was banning public smoking or decreeing that all municipal vehicles go hybrid, his objective was always civic self-improvement. Near the end of his third and final term in 2012, he decided to attack the childhood obesity epidemic. He did so by banning sales of sugary soft drinks in quantities greater than sixteen ounces. We can debate the merits of Bloomberg's idea and the inequities created by some of its loopholes. But we can all agree that reducing childhood obesity is a good thing. In one small way, Bloomberg was trying to alter the environment that tempts people to overconsume sugary drinks. His rationale was unassailable: if consumers-for example, moviegoers-aren't offered a thirty-two-ounce soft drink for a few pennies more than the sixteen-ounce cup, they'll buy the smaller version and consume less sugar. He wasn't stopping people from drinking all the sugary beverage they wanted (they could still buy two sixteen-ounce cups). He was merely putting up a small obstacle to alter people's behavior-like closing your door so people must knock before interrupting you. Personally, I didn't have a dog in this race. (I am not here to judge. My mission is to help people become the person that they want to be, not tell them who that person is.) I watched Bloomberg's plan unfold purely as an exercise in the richness of our resistance to change. I love New York. The good citizens didn't disappoint. Excerpted from Triggers: How Situations Shape Our Behavior--And How to Create Meaningful Change That Lasts by Marshall Goldsmith, Mark Reiter All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.

Table of Contents

Introductionp. xiii
Part 1 Don't We Become the Person We Want Be?
Chapter 1 The Immutable Truths of Behavioral Changep. 3
Chapter 2 Belief Triggers That Stop Behavioral Change in Its Tracksp. 12
Chapter 3 It's the Environmentp. 25
Chapter 4 Identifying Our Triggersp. 39
Chapter 5 How Triggers Workp. 54
Chapter 6 We Are Superior Planners and Inferior Doersp. 62
Chapter 7 Forecasting the Environmentp. 73
Chapter 8 The Wheel of Changep. 84
Part 2 Try
Chapter 9 The Power of Active Questionsp. 101
Chapter 10 The Engaging Questionsp. 111
Chapter 11 Daily Questions in Actionp. 124
Chapter 12 Planner, Doer, and Coachp. 140
Chapter 13 AIWATTp. 152
Part 3 More Structure, Please
Chapter 14 "We Do Not Get Better Without Structurep. 169
Chapter 15 But It Has to Be the Right Structurep. 175
Chapter 16 Behaving Under the Influence of Depletionp. 181
Chapter 17 We Need Help When We're Least Likely to Get Itp. 189
Chapter 18 Hourly Questionsp. 194
Chapter 19 The Trouble with "Good Enough"p. 202
Chapter 20 Becoming the Triggerp. 216
Part 4 No Regards
Chapter 21 The Circle of Engagementp. 221
Chapter 22 The Hazard of Leading a Changeless Lifep. 232
Acknowledgmentsp. 235
Indexp. 237