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The art of asking; or, How I learned to stop worrying and let people help
Palmer, Amanda, 1976-
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New York : Hachette Audio, 2014.
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10 audio discs (11.5 hr.) : digital ; 4 3/4 in.
Imagine standing on a box in the middle of a busy city, dressed as a white-faced bride, and silently asking people for money. Or touring Europe in a punk cabaret band, and finding a place to sleep each night by reaching out to strangers on Twitter. For Amanda Palmer, actions like these have gone beyond satisfying her basic needs for food and shelter. They've taught her how to turn strangers into friends, build communities, and discover her own giving impulses.
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Title from container.

Compact discs.

"Featuring music from The Dresden Dolls, Amanda Palmer, Ben Folds, Walt Ribeiro and Sxip Shirey."

"Features an exclusive live recording of "Bigger on the inside"."

Includes PDF of photos & lyrics.
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Audiobook on CD


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Rock star, crowdfunding pioneer, and TED speaker Amanda Palmer knows all about asking. Performing as a living statue in a wedding dress, she wordlessly asked thousands of passersby for their dollars. When she became a singer, songwriter, and musician, she was not afraid to ask her audience to support her as she surfed the crowd (and slept on their couches while touring). And when she left her record label to strike out on her own, she asked her fans to support her in making an album, leading to the world's most successful music Kickstarter.

Even while Amanda is both celebrated and attacked for her fearlessness in asking for help, she finds that there are important things she cannot ask for-as a musician, as a friend, and as a wife. She learns that she isn't alone in this, that so many people are afraid to ask for help, and it paralyzes their lives and relationships. In this groundbreaking book, she explores these barriers in her own life and in the lives of those around her, and discovers the emotional, philosophical, and practical aspects of THE ART OF ASKING.

Part manifesto, part revelation, this is the story of an artist struggling with the new rules of exchange in the twenty-first century, both on and off the Internet. THE ART OF ASKING will inspire readers to rethink their own ideas about asking, giving, art, and love.

Author Notes

Amanda Palmer is the lead singer, pianist, and lyricist for the acclaimed band The Dresden Dolls, and performs as a solo artist as well as collaborating with artists including Jonathan Richman and her husband, author Neil Gaiman. She is the author or co-author of Who Killed Amanda Palmer and The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help.

(Bowker Author Biography)

Reviews 2

Publisher's Weekly Review

Performance artist and Dresden Dolls singer Palmer reflects on her career and shares insight into the economy of shared resources in this sometimes insightful but overly self-indulgent memoir. Beginning in Harvard Square performing as a human statue, Palmer first observed a "subterranean financial ecosystem" of sharing. She found a similar environment at the "Cloud Club," an artists' commune where her band performed its first gigs and shot a music video to which residents loaned their various talents. As a touring musician, Palmer became familiar with asking fans for "crash space" and meals, as when a Honduran family in Miami offered the crew their beds and treated them to "tortilla lessons" in the morning. Palmer delivers a master class on harnessing technology for artistic purposes, explaining how to turn crowdfunding, Twitter, and digital music downloads to your advantage. She makes valid points about the controversial Kickstarter that raised 1 million dollars for her solo album, but remains utterly obtuse regarding the poor reception of a poem written in the voice of one of the Boston Marathon bombers she posted to her blog. Palmer's worthy message that "asking is an act of intimacy and trust" is often obscured by an overly confessional, borderline narcissistic tone unlikely to placate her critics. Agent: Merrilee Heifetz, Writers House. (Nov.) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

Library Journal Review

Singer-songwriters are by trade confessional artists. Palmer, once a member of the Dresden Dolls, further invades the fourth wall with this book, which expands her million-hit TED Talk with insights as to why it's hard to ask for help and how this reluctance can freeze-frame one's life and relationships. The writing can be nakedly emotional (complete with musical interludes), but her narration of the book avoids the bathetic, elides mawkish, and motors deep into the practicalities of an interconnected, inter-dependent life, both on a personal and professional level. VERDICT Recommended for fans of the author and anyone interested in getting help for one's creative pursuits. [See a Q&A with the author on this page.]-Kelly Sinclair, Temple P.L., TX © Copyright 2015. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.