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Leading the life you want : skills for integrating work and life
Friedman, Stewart D.
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Boston, Massachusetts : Harvard Business Review Press, [2014]
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viii, 256 pages ; 25 cm
"Must professional accomplishments come at the expense of having a full life? Not according to Wharton professor and leadership and work-life expert Stewart D. Friedman. In his new book, Friedman identifies critical skills for leading an authentic and balanced life, and illustrates them through the compelling stories of six remarkable high-profile people. He also shows how to develop and apply each skill through a series of exercises anyone can use. Each leader showcased in the book-Bruce Springsteen, Michelle Obama, Sheryl Sandberg, Tom Tierney, Eric Greitens, and Julie Foudy-exemplifies a specific set of skills for achieving greater harmony between work and life. Friedman identifies these discrete skills-for being real, being whole, and being innovative-that reduce conflict. Then, based on in depth interviews and research, he paints a dramatic picture of the creative ways these six very different leaders pursue authenticity and harmony every day. Friedman also includes exercises for practicing each skill, along with actionable ideas curated from research in organizational psychology and related fields, for applying them. This book will inspire and reinforce the changes people want to make to lead more balanced lives and to become better leaders"--
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A Wall Street Journal Bestseller

"For nearly thirty years, my life's work has been to help people like you find ways to bring the often warring aspects of life into greater harmony." -- Stew Friedman, from Leading the Life You Want

You're busy trying to lead a "full" life. But does it really feel full--or are you stretched too thin? Enter Stew Friedman, Wharton professor, adviser to leaders across the globe, and passionate advocate of replacing the misguided metaphor of "work/life balance" with something more realistic and sustainable. If you're seeking "balance" you'll never achieve it, argues Friedman. The idea that "work" competes with "life" ignores the more nuanced reality of our humanity--the interaction of four domains: work, home, community, and the private self. The goal is to create harmony among them instead of thinking only in terms of trade-offs. It can be done.

Building on his national bestseller, Total Leadership , and on decades of research, teaching, and practice as both consultant and senior executive, Friedman identifies the critical skills for integrating work and the rest of life. He illustrates them through compelling original stories of these remarkable people:

* former Bain & Company CEO and Bridgespan co-founder Tom Tierney
* Facebook COO and bestselling author Sheryl Sandberg
* nonprofit leader and US Navy SEAL Eric Greitens
* US First Lady Michelle Obama
* soccer champion-turned-broadcaster Julie Foudy
* renowned artist Bruce Springsteen

Each of these admirable (though surely imperfect) people exemplifies a set of skills--for being real, being whole, and being innovative--that produce a sense of purpose, coherence, and optimism.

Based on interviews and research, their stories paint a vivid picture of how six very different leaders use these skills to act with authenticity, integrity, and creativity--and they prove that significant public success is accomplished not at the expense of the rest of life, but as the result of meaningful engagement in all its parts . With dozens of practical exercises for strengthening these skills, curated from the latest research in organizational psychology and related fields, this book will inspire you, inform you, and instruct you on how to take realistic steps now toward leading the life you truly want.

Author Notes

Since 1984 Stew Friedman has been teaching at Wharton, where he is the Practice Professor of Management. In 1991 he founded both the Wharton Leadership Program--initiating the required MBA and Undergraduate leadership courses--and the Wharton Work/Life Integration Project. Stew served in the mental health field before earning his PhD in organizational psychology from the University of Michigan. In 2001 he concluded a two-year assignment (while on leave from Wharton) at Ford, as the senior executive for leadership development. Stew is the author of Baby Bust: New Choices for Men and Women in Work and Family (Wharton Digital, 2008) and Total Leadership: Be a Better Leader, Have a Richer Life (Harvard Business Review Press, 2014). The Total Leadership program is used worldwide, including by the 57,000+ students in Stew's recent Coursera MOOC. He advises many organizations, gives high-energy keynotes, and is an award-winning teacher. The New York Times cited the "rock star adoration" he inspires in students. He was chosen by Working Mother as one of America's twenty-five most influential men to have made things better for working parents, and by Thinkers50 as one of the "world's top fifty business thinkers." The Families and Work Institute honored him with a Work Life Legacy Award. Follow him on Twitter @StewFriedman and tune in to his show, Work and Life , on Sirius XM 111, Business Radio Powered by the Wharton School , Tuesdays at 7:00 p.m. (EST).

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Publisher's Weekly Review

Citing research that suggests professional success results from living a full, meaningful, and balanced life, Friedman (Total Leadership), founder of the Wharton Leadership Program and the Wharton Work/Life Integration Project, identifies six individuals from diverse fields who have found commendable ways to incorporate life's "four domains" of work/school, home/family, community/society, and body/mind/spirit. The first section of the book features magazine-style profiles of First Lady Michelle Obama, rocker Bruce Springsteen, activist-athlete Julie Foudy, Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg, humanitarian and former Navy SEAL Eric Greitens, and CEO-turned-philanthropist Tom Tierney, along with suggestions for readers on ways to apply the guiding principles exemplified by these role models. The second section consists of 36 exercises designed to help readers achieve a similar balance through authenticity, integrity, and creativity. With a personable writing style that also has an air of formality, Friedman's accessible book is a significant entry in the work/life-balance category. That said, readers will need to harbor a strong desire for change to implement some of these suggestions: find a quiet spot to draw your goals on artist's paper with colored markers? (Oct.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

Table of Contents

Introduction: Beyond Balance
Part I Models for Integrating Work and the Rest of Life
1 Tom Tierney: Envision Your Legacy, Weave Disparate Strands, See New Ways of Doing Thingsp. 29
2 Sheryl Sandberg: Convey Values with Stories, Build Supportive Networks, Resolve Conflicts among Domainsp. 49
3 Eric Greitens: Hold Yourself Accountable, Apply All Your Resources, Focus on Resultsp. 71
4 Michelle Obama: Align Actions with Values, Manage Boundaries Intelligently, Embrace Change Courageouslyp. 93
5 Julie Foudy: Know What Matters, Help Others, Challenge the Status Quop. 111
6 Bruce Springsteen: Embody Values Consistently, Clarify Expectations, Create Cultures of Innovationp. 129
Part II Developing the Skills for Integrating Work and the Rest of Life
7 The Worst Thing You Can Do: Don't Fail to Growp. 153
8 Skills for Being Real: Acting with Authenticityp. 159
9 Skills for Being Whole: Acting with Integrityp. 175
10 Skills for Being Innovative: Acting with Creativityp. 191
Conclusion: Try to Be Kinder-to Others and to Yourselfp. 205
Notesp. 209
Bibliographyp. 223
Indexp. 243
Acknowledgmentsp. 251
About the Authorp. 255