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Title:
Act like a lady, think like a man : what men really think about love, relationships, intimacy, and commitment
Author:
Harvey, Steve, 1956-
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Edition:
Expanded edition.
Publication Information:
New York : Amistad, 2014.
Physical Description:
xi, 290 pages ; 21 cm
Summary:
Steve Harvey has updated his classic with new advice and insights. Whether it's why women should enforce a "90-Day Probation Period" before they give their men sexual "benefits"--The way Ford motor company withholds medical and dental benefits until an employee has been on the job for 3 months - or explaining to women why men would rather "fix it" than talk about it, Steve Harvey's advice is always spot-on and laden with warmth and humor. But behind the laughter is his sincere desire to help women understand men. With liberal use of his own adventures in love and courtship, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is an honest, compelling, and realistic examination of how men think about love and sex and what women need to know so that they can set realistic expectations of the men in their life.
Language:
English
Contents:
Everything you need to know about men and relationships is right here -- The mind-set of a man. What drives men -- Our love isn't like your love -- The three things every man needs: support, loyalty, and the cookie -- "We need to talk, " and other words that make men run for cover -- Why men do what they do. First things first: he wants to sleep with you -- Sports fish vs. keepers: how men distinguish between the marrying types and the playthings -- Mama's boys -- Why men cheat -- The playbook: how to win the game. Men respect standards, get some -- The five questions every woman should ask before she gets in too deep -- The ninety-day rule: getting the respect you deserve -- If he's meeting the kids after you decide he's "the one, " it's too late -- Strong, independent, and lonely, women -- How to get the ring -- From his woman to his wife: winning his heart for a lifetime. Managing the ex-files: how to keep your cool when his past arrives -- Making the first ninety days count -- Your career, his ambitions: how to make your dreams work together -- When the cookie crumbles: put the spice back into your relationship -- Is it time to put a ring on it?: a 10-step test before your trip to the jeweler -- Avoiding a family feud: navigating his family -- Quick answers to the questions you've always wanted to ask.
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ISBN:
9780062351562
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The #1 New York Times smash bestseller Revised and expanded with new material.

With over two million copies sold, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man has become a bestseller around the world. In conjunction with its second movie sequel to be released this summer, Steve Harvey has updated his classic with new advice and insights.

Whether it's why women should enforce a "90-Day Probation Period" before they give their men sexual "benefits"--the way Ford motor company withholds medical and dental benefits until an employee has been on the job for 3 months--or explaining to women why men would rather "fix it" than talk about it, Steve Harvey's advice is always spot-on and laden with warmth and humor. But behind the laughter is his sincere desire to help women understand men.

Now, Steve shares even more relationship wisdom. Does it feel like your man's friends are against you? What should you know about being a wife, before you say "I Do"? Steve provides the answers to these questions and more, and offers new insights including:

How to put spice into your relationship 8 sure-fire ways to keep your cool when his "ex" shows up A test for you and your partner, to see if you're actually ready for marriage. . . or need more time A 90-day abstinence calendar, and tips for making it through this important trial period

With liberal use of his own adventures in love and courtship, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is an honest, compelling, and realistic examination of how men think about love and sex and what women need to know so that they can set realistic expectations of the men in their life.


Author Notes

Steve Harvey was born on January 17, 1957 in Welch, West Virginia. He is actor, comedian, radio and television personality, and best-selling author. His books include Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment, Straight Talk, No Chaser: How to Find, Keep, and Understand a Man, and Act Like a Success, Think Like a Success: Discovering Your Gift and the Way to Life's Riches, Jump: Take the Leap of Faith to Achieve Your Life of Abundance.

(Bowker Author Biography)


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Publisher's Weekly Review

As a popular comedian, radio host and red-blooded male, Harvey doesn't have the bona fides typical to most women's relationship self-help, but he still manages a thorough, witty guide to the modern man. Harvey undertakes the task because "women are clueless about men," because "men get away with a whole lot of stuff" and because he has "some valuable information to change all of that." Harvey makes a game effort, taking a bold but familiar men-are-dogs approach: if you're "cutting back" on sex, "he will have another woman lined up and waiting to give him what he needs and wants-the cookie." several chapters later, however, he introduces the "ninety-day rule," asserting that, actually, he won't always have another woman lined up-and the only way to make sure is a three month vetting period. Harvey also tackles mama's boys, "independent-and lonely-women," and the matter of children in the dating world ("if he's meeting the kids after you decide he's the one, it's too late"). Feminists and the easily offended probably won't take to Harvey's blanket statements and blunt advice, but Harvey's fans and those in need of tough (but ticklish) love advice should check it out (especially the hysterical last-chapter q&a). (Feb.) Copyright 2009 Reed Business Information.


Excerpts

Excerpts

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man Chapter One What Drives Men There is no truer statement: men are simple. Get this into your head first, and everything you learn about us in this book will begin to fall into place. Once you get that down, you'll have to understand a few essential truths: men are driven by who they are, what they do, and how much they make. No matter if a man is a CEO, a CON, or both, everything he does is filtered through his title (who he is), how he gets that title (what he does), and the reward he gets for the effort (how much he makes). These three things make up the basic DNA of manhoodâ€"the three accomplishments every man must achieve before he feels like he's truly fulfilled his destiny as a man. And until he's achieved his goal in those three areas, the man you're dating, committed to, or married to will be too busy to focus on you. Think about it: from the moment a boy is born, the first thing everyone around him starts doing is telling him what he must do to be a real man. He is taught to be toughâ€"to wrestle, climb, get up without crying, not let anyone push him around. He is taught to work hardâ€"to do chores around the house, get the groceries out of the car, take out the trash, shovel the snow, cut the grass, and, as soon as he's old enough, get a job. He is taught to protectâ€"to watch out for his mother and his younger siblings, to watch over the house and the family's property. And he is especially encouraged to uphold his family nameâ€"make something of himself so that when he walks in a room, everybody is clear about who he is, what he does, and how much he makes. Each of these things is taught in preparation for one thing: manhood. The pursuit of manhood doesn't change once a boy is grown. In fact, it's only magnified. His focus has always been on, and will remain on, who he is, what he does, and how much he makes until he feels like he's achieved his mission. And until a man does these things, women only fit into the cracks of his life. He's not thinking about settling down, having children, or building a home with anyone until he's got all three of those things in sync. I'm not saying that he has had to have made it, but at least he has to be on track to making it. This is certainly how it worked for me. I'll never forget how disappointed, frustrated, and unhappy I was when, in my early twenties, I was laid off from the Ford Motor Company. I was already a college dropout, and now, without a job, I hardly had enough money to take care of myself, much less a family. This left me unsure of my futureâ€"what I was going to do, how much I was going to make, and what my title would be. The titles "college graduate" and "Ford inspector" were gone; having no job pretty much meant that my chances of bringing home a good paycheck were zero; and I hadn't a clue how I was going to make money. It took me a while to find my footing. I dabbled in various jobs: I owned a carpet cleaning business; I sold carpet; I sold Amway products, the Dick Gregory Bahamian Diet, and ALW Insurance and Commonwealth Insurance. It was madness what I was doing to try to get my life together. Finding someone serious to settle down with was the absolute last thing on my mind. Then, one night a woman for whom I used to write jokes encouraged me to go to a local comedy club and sign up for amateur night. See, I knew I was funny, and I made a few dollarsâ€"very few dollarsâ€"writing material for up-and-coming local comedians who were trying to find their way into the industry. But I hadn't a clue, really, how to go about getting into the business for myself. Still, this woman saw something in me and told me to take the stage. So I did. And I killed. I won $50â€"which today may not seem like a lot of money, but when I was broke at that time, it felt like $5,000â€"for telling jokes. I also was guaranteed another fifty dollars if, as the winner, I opened the following week's amateur night competition. The next day, I went to a printer and spent fifteen dollars of my winnings on business cards that, along with my phone number, read: Steve Harvey. Comedian. They were flat and flimsy and didn't have any raised lettering, but those business cards announced that I was Steve Harvey (who I am), and that I had a special talent in comedy (what I do). How much I was going to make remained to be seen, but at least I had the "who I am" and the "what I do" lined up. If men aren't pursuing their dreamsâ€"if we're not chasing the "who we are," the "what we do," and the "how much we make," we're doomed. Dead. But the moment that we figure out the puzzle and feel like our dreams are taking shape, new life breathes into usâ€"it makes us vibrant, enthuses, and animates us. From the moment I became a comedian, I stepped onto that stage ready to be the very best. Even today, no matter how tired I am, no matter what is going on in my life, I am never late for work, and I've never once missed a gig. Why? Because when I wake up, my dream is in check; I'm living it out live and in color every day, whether it's on the radio during the Steve Harvey Morning Show , or on television with my various projects, or onstage, during my Steve Harvey Live shows. Who I am is certainâ€"I'm Steve Harvey. What I do is certain: comedy. And how much I make is right in line with what I've always wanted for my family and me. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man . Copyright © by Steve Harvey . Reprinted by permission of HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved. Available now wherever books are sold. Excerpted from Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think about Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment by Steve Harvey All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.

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