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I only know who I am when I am somebody else : my life on the street, on the stage, and in the movies
Aiello, Danny, 1933- , author.
First Gallery Books hardcover edition.
Publication Information:
New York : Gallery Books, 2014.
Physical Description:
309 pages : illustrations (some color) ; 24 cm
The actor reminisces about his Hollywood years, tracing his brushes with the law, military service, long-time marriage, and contributions to such films as "Do the Right Thing, " "The Godfather, Part II, " and "Moonstruck."
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"A memoir"--Jacket.
Searching for me -- My very own West Side story -- Mothers and fathers and sons --Fists, don't fail me now -- How baseball saved my life -- Sandy -- The big grey dog -- Breaking in -- At the Improv -- Steps forward and steps back -- How baseball saved my life )again) -- Gemini -- Knockout -- Fort Apache -- Sergio, Woody, and Madonna -- Moonstruck -- Do the right thing -- The Oscars -- The shutout -- Hudson Hawk -- Ready to wear -- Dizzy Gillespie's horn -- Dellaventura -- I just want to hear the words -- Danny, my son, my son -- Searching for me (reprise).
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Beloved stage and screen actor Danny Aiello's big-hearted memoir reveals a man of passion, integrity, and guts--and lays bare one of the most unlikely success stories ever told.

Danny Aiello admits that he backed into his acting career by mistake. That's easy to see when you begin at the beginning: Raised by his loving and fiercely resilient mother in the tenements of Manhattan and the South Bronx, and forever haunted by the death of his infant brother, Danny struggled early on to define who he was and who he could be. Shoeshine boy, numbers runner, and pool hustler were among the first identities he tried on. After getting into trouble on the streets, he enlisted in the army at seventeen, served in Germany, and was honorably discharged. Later, as an unemployed high school dropout raising a family of his own, Danny was burdened with serious depression by the time he landed a job as a bouncer at a Hell's Kitchen comedy club. Taking to the stage in the wee hours to belt out standards, Danny Aiello found his voice and his purpose: He was born to act. Performing in converted churches and touring companies led to supporting roles in such films as The Godfather: Part II and Moonstruck, and an Oscar nomination for his role as the embattled Salvatore in Spike Lee's Do the Right Thing. For a guy who had never set foot in an acting class, this was supreme validation for being an outsider who followed his heart.

In a raw and real chronicle of his gritty urban past, Danny Aiello looks back with appreciation, amusement, and frank disbelief at his unconventional road to success. He offers candid observations on working with luminary directors Francis Ford Coppola, Woody Allen, and Robert Altman, among others, and a vast roster of actors, including Robert De Niro, Paul Newman, Madonna, Cher, and Lauren Bacall. He opens up about friends he loved, friends he lost, and the professional relationships that weren't meant to be. Above all, Danny Aiello imparts a life lesson straight out of his own experience to anyone who's ever felt like an outsider: It's never too late to become who you want to be, to find happiness and fulfillment, and to embrace the winding road to get there.

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Publisher's Weekly Review

With raw honesty, this straightforward account covers an unusual career for an unusual actor. Aiello's life had an unpromising start growing up with a mostly absent father in cold-water New York flats, in a family that "still had one foot in the last century." He was a teenage soldier, a Greyhound baggage handler, a union organizer, and a Bronx pool hustler and small-time thief before his physical presence landed him a job as a bouncer at The Improv comedy club. He parlayed his emcee duties into some stage work and, with the encouragement of friends, started acting, breaking into stage and film work in the early 1970s. His career arguably peaked when he was nominated for an Academy Award for Best Supporting Actor in Spike Lee's "Do the Right Thing," which he talks about in a declarative, factual manner. There's little introspection of the actor's craft here, but there are some good stories, including a hilariously ribald account of a dinner at Bea Arthur's house and a catty rift with Lauren Bacall on the set of Robert Altman's "Ready to Wear." Most of all, though, Aiello's sense of his unlikely journey justifies his pride at his hard-won good fortune. Agent: Jennifer DeChiara, Jennifer DeChiara Literary Agency (Oct.) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.



I Only Know Who I Am When I Am Somebody Else Chapter One Searching for Me In March 1990, I was sitting in the audience at L.A.'s Dorothy Chandler Pavilion, waiting for the winners to be announced at the sixty-second Academy Awards ceremony. All around me were gorgeous women and handsome men. The Oscars were the kind of event that showed this New York City kid just how far he had come from his beginnings on the streets of the West Side of Manhattan and the South Bronx. My stomach was tied in knots. That year, I was nominated as Best Actor in a Supporting Role for my performance as Sal Frangione in Spike Lee's controversial film Do the Right Thing. The nomination was so important to me. It told me, You're not only a working actor, but you've been accepted by your peers. For a guy who never set foot in an acting class and who only started his career in his mid-thirties, this was a supreme validation. I recall clearly what else I felt that night, with all the glitter and glamour flowing around me like a river. No matter where I was, I was an outsider. Even with an Oscar nomination and everybody talking about my performance, I still had a nagging sense that somehow I didn't belong. It's a feeling that I've always had. At something like this major awards event, the sense of being an outsider was especially sharp. What am I doing here? I kept thinking. I wasn't a member of the Hollywood inner circle. I grew up working-class, not privileged. I'm street. And here I was, surrounded by people who were more like avenues, landscaped boulevards, private drives. The thing about being an actor, though, is that you're never alone. With me that evening were all the characters I had ever portrayed in the movies and on the stage. They whispered in my ear, telling me that while winning isn't everything, losing doesn't have a hell of a lot to say for itself. Those voices are always present. Throughout my life, I've always been searching for me. Creating characters is part of that search. At the Oscars that night, the truth was both simple and complicated. I only know who I am when I am somebody else. It sounds like a riddle, but it's the reality of my life. When I'm playing a character, only then do I know who I am, only then am I complete. I've experienced dark times in my life when I've been an outsider even to myself. I've been so depressed and confused that I've experienced a loss of self. Acting helped save me. Geena Davis, who was presenting the Best Actor in a Supporting Role award that evening, stepped up to the podium onstage. She introduced all the contenders, my name among them. I was up against some heavy hitters: Marlon Brando, Denzel Washington, Martin Landau, and Dan Aykroyd. "The Academy Award for this year's best supporting actor goes to . . ." She struggled opening up the envelope. The moment hung in the balance for me. In a lot of ways, it represented a culmination of the journey I was on, leading me to great heights and devastating lows, transporting me to places like the Dorothy Chandler Pavilion in Los Angeles. I want to invite you, the reader, on this journey in search of self. It's my hope that this personal journey of mine might help you on yours. Come on along. Excerpted from Danny Aiello: A Life on the Outside Looking In by Danny Aiello All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.

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