Introduction: "You should write a book" -- Divorce 101. Before you call a lawyer: laying the groundwork for co-parenting success ; Good grief: strategies to start the healing process ; Attorneys and mediators and collaborative divorce, oh, my! -- Co-parenting basics. What's your co-parenting style? ; Fifteen things you may want to do (but must not do) as a co-parent ; Fifteen things you must do (but may not want to do) as a co-parent ; Calendars, clothes, and camps ; Write your own parenting plan ; Separate but equal ; "What about us?": never-married and noncustodial parents -- "But you don't know my ex". Co-parenting, dating, and remarriage ; Fifteen things you can do for you child in spite of your uncooperative ex -- Postscript: What co-parents can learn from adult children of divorce.