Strong will means willfulness -- Hallmarks of a strong-willed child -- In praise of the strong-willed child -- Problems with being a strong-willed child -- Working for willingness -- The problem with being a strong-willed parent -- When a willful child runs the family -- Building blocks for getting back in charge -- Roadblocks to getting back in charge -- Handling discipline -- Handling conflict -- Maintaining emotional sobriety -- ADD and ADHD children and willfulness -- Introducing education -- Issues in education -- How adolescence increases willfulness -- Freedom and willfulness -- Willfulness in early adolescence -- anticipating later adolescence -- Antagonism and ambivalence -- The willful only child -- Substance use increases willfulness.