pt. 1. The phenomenon of peer orientation -- 1. Why parents matter more than ever -- 2. Skewed attachments, subverted instincts -- 3. Why we've come undone -- pt. 2. Sabotaged : how peer orientation undermines parenting -- 4. The power to parent is slipping away -- 5. From help to hindrance : when attachment works against us -- 6. Counterwill : why children become disobedient -- 7. The flatlining of culture -- pt. 3. Stuck in immaturity : how peer orientation stunts healthy development -- 8. The dangerous flight from feeling -- 9. Stuck in immaturity -- 10. A legacy of aggression -- 11. The making of bullies and victims -- 12. A sexual turn -- 13. Unteachable students -- pt. 4. How to hold on to our kids (or how to reclaim them) -- 14. Collecting our children -- 15. Preserve the ties that empower -- 16. Discipline that does not divide -- pt. 5. Preventing peer orientation -- 17. Don't court the competition -- 18. Re-create the attachment village -- Glossary.