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How to love
Livingston, Gordon.
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First Da Capo Press edition.
Publication Information:
Cambridge, MA : Da Capo Life Long, [2009]

Physical Description:
xxx, 205 pages ; 19 cm
From the internationally bestselling author of "Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart"comes an invigorating exploration of how and who is best to love.

Discusses personality types to avoid, virtues to look for and to inculcate in ourselves and ways to improve relationships.
Oh, how powerfully the magnet of illusion attracts -- A man is known by the company he avoids. Don't blame the mirror for your own reflection ; Fear is the prison of the heart ; Always borrow from a pessimist, he won't expect to be paid back ; No hell is private ; Against boredom the gods themselves fight in vain ; The best of compasses does not point to true north ; We cannot direct the wind but we can trim the sails ; Life is rarely as simple as we would have it ; We flatter ourselves if we believe that our character is fixed ; What is essential is invisible to the eye ; The first duty of love is to listen ; When all is said and done, more is said than done -- People to cherish. The essential virtues ; Kindness ; Optimism ; Courage ; Loyalty ; Tolerance ; Honesty ; Beauty ; Humor ; Flexibility ; Intelligence -- It is not the answer that enlightens, but the question. The most dangerous food to eat is a wedding cake ; The gods are too fond of a joke : the role of chance in human affairs ; Love will make you forget time and time will make you forget love ; Any landing you can walk away from is a good landing ; Falling in love with love is falling for make-believe ; Experience : test first, lesson later ; The trouble with parents is that by the time they are experienced they are unemployed ; If it weren't for marriage, men and women would have to fight with total strangers ; Beware of those who are sure they are right ; Money can't buy happiness, it can, however, rent it ; Ideas are easier to love than people ; If you were arrested for kindness, would there be enough evidence to convict?
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Dr. Gordon Livingston's books have resonated with readers as universally and deeply as earlier books by M. Scott Peck, Rollo May, and Erich Fromm. Now, Gordon Livingston--a physician of the human heart, a philosopher of human psychology--offers an urgently needed meditation on who best (and who best not ) to love--and how best to love. Dr. Livingston's primary focus in this new book is on helping us to recognize in ourselves and in others constellations of character traits and what those traits imply both with regard to compatibility and future conduct. As in his previous books, here are Dr. Livingston's trademark gifts--an unerring sense of what is important, and what Elizabeth Edwards has characterized as "his unapologetic directness and his embracing compassion"--again deployedto provide readers everywhere with a much-needed alternative to the trial-and-error learning that makes wisdom such an expensive commodity.

Author Notes

Gordon Livingston, MD , is a psychiatrist and writer whose three previous books-- Only Spring ; Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart ; and And Never Stop Dancing --have been published in more than 22 countries. He lives and works in Columbia, Maryland.