Introduction: A book that doesn't sell you short (or sell you at all!) -- Chemistry lessons -- Choosy, or burned out? -- Think carefully before "surrendering" -- Looking for love in all the wrong places (and other bad marketing strategies) -- To shrink or not to shrink -- Problem man #1 : Mr. Insecurity -- Problem man #2 : the narcissist -- Problem man #3 : the beach boy -- Problem man #4 : the addict -- Problem man #5 : the control freak -- Problem man #6 : the predator -- Critical test #1 : empathy -- Critical test #2 : reciprocity -- Critical test #3 : generosity -- Critical test #4 : humility -- Keeping insecurity in check -- Striving for balance with a narcissist -- Make life with a beach boy a two-way street -- Avoiding the web of addiction -- How to live with a control freak -- Coping with a predatory man.