Introduction -- Recognizing the problem -- The emotional burden you carry -- The empty mirror: my mother and me -- The faces of maternal narcissism -- Where is daddy? Other members of the narcissistic nest -- Image is everything: put a smile on that pretty little face -- How narcissistic mothering affects your entire life -- I try so hard! The high-achieving daughter -- What's the use? The self-sabotaging daughter -- Romantic fallout: trying to win at love where I failed with mom -- Help! I'm becoming my mother: daughters as mothers -- Ending the legacy -- How it feels, not how it looks: first steps -- A part of and apart from: separating from mother -- Becoming the woman I truly am: deserving daughters -- My turn: dealing with mother during recovery -- Filling the empty mirror: ending the narcissistic legacy -- Appendix -- Suggested reading and movie viewing source lists -- Notes.