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Title:
The firstborn advantage : making your birth order work for you
Author:
Leman, Kevin.
Personal Author:
Publication Information:
Grand Rapids, MI : Revell, [2008]

©2008
Physical Description:
286 pages ; 23 cm
Summary:
Oldest children were born to win! They're the high achievers, benchmark-setters, business moguls, concert violinists, and PTA presidents of our society. But when things get out of balance, how can they avoid being overly perfectionistic, people-pleasing, driven, and critical? Dr. Kevin Leman helps you to maximize your strengths, overcome your weaknesses, and better understand your firstborn friends and relatives.
Language:
English
Contents:
Introduction: Will the firstborn please stand up? -- Just who are the firstborns? -- What's this birth order business about anyway? -- It has everything to do with your place in the family and your entire life -- Who's on first? -- Just because you're the first child born in a family, does that make you the firstborn? : here's why or why not -- The firstborn personality -- Firstborns are achievers : they get things done ... but there's a flip side to always winning -- Why firstborns are the way they are -- From day one, they're in charge, they always have the thickest photo album, they set the benchmark for every other child in the family -- Where do I go to buy one of those firstborns? -- You can't buy 'em, you can't teach 'em (at least not very well) -- Firstborn has innate skills that are hard to beat if he or she is balanced in life -- Has the critical eye turned on you? -- If there's anything firstborns struggle with, it's criticism : did you have a flaw picker as a parent? are you a flaw picker? here's how to turn that around for your own and others' good -- The firstborn advantage at home -- How to use your firstborn skills to strengthen your relationships with your spouse and children (who may be the same or a different birth order than you) -- The firstborn advantage at school -- How to use your firstborn nature to set reasonable goals and to encourage both yourself and your children as you pursue excellence ... not frustration -- The firstborn advantage at work -- How you can win at business anytime and all the time -- The firstborn advantage in relationships -- Why birds of a feather flock together ... but sometimes cause problems in the nest -- Making the most of being a firstborn -- What do you really want out of life? : you can break free of your own and others' expectations.
ISBN:
9780800719111
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Book

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Summary

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You're driven. You have big plans and dreams. You demand a lot out of yourself, and it pays off. As a natural mover and shaker of the world, you were at the top of your class. You're the benchmark setter and the award winner, you've always done what's expected of you-and yes, you're the one who got in trouble for what your younger sibling did. Being firstborn comes with a high price sometimes, doesn't it? And no one is harder on you than you. But here's a news flash: it doesn't have to be that way. You can learn to use your firstborn skills to your best advantage in every area of life. And you'll still end up as the high achiever you were born to be. Guaranteed. Book jacket.


Author Notes

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known psychologist, humorist, and bestselling author of The Birth Order Book and Have a New Kid by Friday . He is former consulting psychologist for Good Morning America and a frequent guest on The View , The Early Show , and Focus on the Family . He and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson, Arizona. They have five children and four grandchildren.


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Publisher's Weekly Review

What do Jennifer Aniston and Angelina Jolie have in common? And how do they share that certain something with Ulysses S. Grant? They're all first-borns, and in this breezy book, psychologist and birth order expert Leman delves into how birth order influences the first-born personality and upends some conventional thinking (e.g., only children and the first child of either sex is automatically a first-born--hence Jolie who has an elder brother can be classified as such) and illustrates first-borns' classic traits: reliability, perfectionism, a penchant for list making and black-and-white thinking, some social introversion but strong leadership abilities. Gender, parental treatment and family size are just as important as chronology, argues the author, who does an admirable job balancing the hope and hype of familial ranking and integrates compelling theories about how schooling and relationships work to address how first-borns can maximize desirable personality traits and minimize liabilities. His spirited and exceptionally easy read will appeal to those readers interested in understanding better whence they came and how to move forward with success. (Sept.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved All rights reserved.


Table of Contents

Dr. Kevin Leman
Acknowledgmentsp. 9
Introduction: Will the Firstborn Please Stand Up?p. 11
1 What's This Birth Order Business About Anyway?p. 19
2 Who's on First?p. 35
3 The Firstborn Personalityp. 59
4 Why Firstborns Are the Way They Arep. 73
5 Where Do I Go to Buy One of Those Firstborns?p. 91
6 Has the Critical Eye Turned on You?p. 109
7 The Firstborn Advantage at Homep. 147
8 The Firstborn Advantage at Schoolp. 185
9 The Firstborn Advantage at Workp. 219
10 The Firstborn Advantage in Relationshipsp. 253
11 Making the Most of Being a Firstbornp. 271
Notesp. 279
About Dr. Kevin Lemanp. 283
Resourcesp. 285