Introduction: First comes marriage-- seriously? -- Secret #1: Your man doesn't have to be your best friend -- Escaping the myth of "the one" -- Secret #2: The musts are all that matter -- Your type might not be what you think it is -- Secret #3: Commitment is the opposite of constraint -- Overcoming the one foot out the door syndrome -- Secret #4: It doesn"t matter if he doesn't dance -- The danger of confusing common interests with shared values -- Secret #5: Romance needs a rewrite -- Ditch Valentine's Day and decide what's really important to you -- Secret #6: His sex appeal?: it's all about you! -- Find personal satisfaction by paying attention to the positives -- Secret #7: Family matters -- A higher purpose = long-term happiness -- Conclusion: --Then comes love.