Introduction -- It doesn't have to be this way -- Three forces that make (and keep) men passive -- Roadblocks along the four paths to intimacy -- Emotions of the Christian nice guy -- Gender differences and intimacy languages -- Proceeding with wisdom, grace, and love -- Handling issues of rage, respect, and resentment -- Goodwill, ill-will : how to tell -- More practical ways to nurture intimacy -- Drawing closer to Him, and to him.