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Woman power : transform your man, your marriage, your life
Schlessinger, Laura.
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First edition.
Publication Information:
New York : HarperCollins, [2004]

Physical Description:
xxvii, 222 pages ; 24 cm
General Note:
"The companion book to The proper care and feeding of husbands."
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HQ734 .S3784 2004 Adult Non-Fiction Open Shelf
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HQ734 .S3784 2004 Adult Non-Fiction Open Shelf
HQ734 .S3784 2004 Adult Non-Fiction Open Shelf
HQ734 .S3784 2004 Adult Non-Fiction Open Shelf
HQ734 .S3784 2004 Adult Non-Fiction Open Shelf

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The immediate feedback to Dr. Laura Schlessinger's seventh bestseller, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, affirmed that Dr. Laura helped hundreds of thousands of readers make good marriages even better and saved many from the brink of divorce. Now, due to overwhelming response from her readers and listeners who wanted to know more about the special power women have to transform their husbands, their marriages, and their lives, Dr. Laura has written Woman Power.

Through a series of provocative chapters and Q&As, Dr. Laura guides women on how to assess what is valuable and what is vulnerable in their marriages, and stimulates women to think about what is really important about being a woman, a wife, and a mother. In addition, readers will find inspirational stories and tips, thought-provoking essays, and plenty of room for entries, thoughts, and journals. There are even fascinating Q&As for husbands and wives to do together!

Woman Power is the perfect companion book for the woman who wants to ensure herself -- and her man! -- the marital happiness and satisfaction everyone dreams of.

Author Notes

Dr. Laura Schlessinger holds a post doctoral certification in marriage, family and child therapy and is licensed by the state of California as a marriage and family therapist. She is the author of best-selling children's books, Why Do You Love Me?, But I Waaannt It!, Growing Up Is Hard and best-selling adult books, Ten Stupid Things Couples Do To Mess Up Their Relationships, Ten Stupid Things Parents Do to Mess Up Their Kids, The Ten Commandments, How Could You Do That? The Abdication of Character, Courage and Conscience, Ten Stupid Things Men Do To Mess Up Their Lives, and Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives.

Dr. Laura is a leading radio talk show host whose weekday show is syndicated nationwide to approximately 12 million listeners. She is also the president and founder of the Dr. Laura Schlessinger Foundation, devoted to abused and neglected kids through its unique outreach of My Stuff Bags. She lives with her husband, Dr. Lew Bishop, and their son, Deryk, in southern California. (Publisher Provided) Laura Schlessinger was born in Brooklyn, New York on January 16, 1947. She received a Bachelor's degree from the State University of New York at Stony Brook, a Ph.D. in Physiology from Columbia University, and a post-doctoral certification in Marriage, Family, and Child Counseling from the University of Southern California. She has lectured at several universities including the University of Southern California and Pepperdine University. She is a talk radio host, who offers no-nonsense advice to callers every day on her nationally-syndicated radio show The Dr. Laura Program. She is also the author of over fifteen books for children and adults including Why Do You Love Me?, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives, and In Praise of Stay-At-Home Moms. She has received numerous honors and awards including an award from the Office of the Secretary of Defense for her Exceptional Public Service and the National Association of Broadcasters' Marconi Award for Network/Syndicated Personality.

(Bowker Author Biography)

Reviews 1

Publisher's Weekly Review

This sister volume to the bestselling The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands argues that by simply using "the niceness of the feminine touch," women "have almost magical powers" to singlehandedly improve their marital relationships. The secret is in implementing the "As" attention, approval, appreciation and affection that Dr. Laura outlined in her earlier book, and she relies on reader testimonials and radio show transcripts to show specifically how change worked for her devoted fans. Women "dominate with respect to power in man-woman relationships," she says. Not all readers will agree with her conservative and controversial premise that "most women have been blinded to caring about what their men think, feel, and want," and many may find her message cloaked in feminist-bashing bombast (feminists have "created wussy Frankensteins out of men"). Dr. Laura blames feminism and denigrates women who have chosen careers for devaluing "what is truly meaningful (sacrifice, commitment, obligation, morality, loyalty) for immediate gratification and material gain, a bizarre notion of equality of the sexes, and power." She never discusses what men can do to improve a marriage; instead she reiterates why it's the woman's responsibility to change first "because we have more power to transform our men than they have to transform us." Devoted fans may flock to this book. Some men may also want to read this is slickly written self-help title and want their wives to read it as well. (Aug.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved



Woman Power Transform Your Man, Your Marriage, Your Life Chapter One Yeah, But . . . What If? Questions and Challenges About The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands For some, the titles Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and Woman Power are provocative and controversial -- especially side by side. The former title strikes some as one-sided, hostile to women, 1950s retro, dangerous to women's civil rights, and an affront to already-hardworking women who see any request or desire from their husbands as selfish and oppressive. The latter title strikes some as the war cry of feminists ("I am woman, hear me roar" or "These boots are made for walking and that's just what they'll do; one of these days these boots are gonna walk all over you"), one-sided, hostile to men, 1960s retro, dangerous to children's rights, and an affront to already hardworking men who see their wives treat any request or desire as selfish and oppressive. This just goes to show you that it's all perspective and attitude. The "feminist" notion of woman power as a rejection of femininity, of child-rearing, of loving a man, and of maintaining a home both for physical and emotional comforts has robbed women of choice and satisfaction. One female radio talk show host thanked me at the end of the interview about The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands , by saying, "You've made caring about your man acceptable again." The ultimate power of women is their unique qualities: intuition, compassion, nurturance, sensitivity, sensuality, bonding, and nesting. Women throughout the ages have been the ones to center men (the emotional safety and warmth of home and hearth, acceptance of him), give men purpose (providing for and protecting wife, children, and home), control male aggressive and promiscuous urges (the civilizing impact of responsibility to family and children). Women are also the ones who ultimately create the atmosphere in the home. It saddens me, as a woman and as a communicator to millions of men, women, and children each day, that women have been indoctrinated to see that as subservience rather than power. But since these issues, sadly, are controversial, many questions arise; some in your own mind, and some to handle when you are challenged when others less enlightened see that you're reading this book! Here are the most frequently asked questions and challenges since I published The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands . This is also the beginning of the "interactive" part of this book. After each Q & A, there is a space left for your reactions, thoughts, challenges, feelings, notes, reflections, admissions, and commitment to growth or change. You don't have to take these questions in any particular order. Also, you may wish to use these questions as points of discussion with your husband and/or your book club or women's group, or with a friend with whom you are taking this journey as "study buddies." Question 1: How do I know the difference between a bad man and a "hungry" man? "I have a concern regarding your new book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. Women who are involved in hateful, abusive relationships may take the advice you give and try even harder to make a potentially fatal relationship work, taking on the guilt that the fault for the abuse is on them for not trying hard enough to please. Maybe you could let the thousands of women who are in these relationships know that there is a possibility that your wonderful book may not be helpful in a relationship that is abusive mentally, emotionally, and physically. Thanks for all you do for all who will pick the wax out of their ears and their egos and listen to you." I couldn't agree more! That is why on the first page of The Proper Care , in the "Author's Note," it reads: "As I pointed out in my first book, Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives , and reiterated in Ten Stupid Things Couples Do to Mess Up Their Relationships , the 3 A's: Addictions, Abuse, and Affairs, are behaviors, in my opinion, that break the covenant and justify the self-preserving decision to end the relationship. Where the behavior of one or both of the spouses is blatantly destructive, dangerous, or evil, this book does not apply." That said, there are some ramifications of this idea of a "bad man" that I think need attention.Since the release of The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands , many women have written to me that even though their men have had affairs, or were drinking too hard or working too long, or were just not being cooperative around the house or perpetually displaying a negative attitude, that their own attitudes toward their husbands after reading the book had the power to heal and redirect them both. I never, never, never blame one person for the choice of behavior or actions of another. I always, always, always make it clear that people must take responsibility for their own actions in spite of whatever influences or pressures they may be experiencing from others. However, it is a fact of life that many people make bad choices because of those influences or pressures. It is also a fact that unhappy men often make stupid, destructive choices because of those influences or pressures. It is a fact that most unhappy men are unhappy because their souls, psyches, and hearts are not being attended to at home, by the only people with the power to transform them -- their wives. Men are more directly dependent on the acceptance and love from their wives for their general well-being, than vice versa. Women get that kind of support and feedback from their mothers, sisters, friends, hairdressers, manicurists, etc. As when they were children, men turn only to their women (mommies and then girlfriends and then wives) for the human touch. Remember the end of the Sylvester Stallone movie Rocky ? When Rocky beat the champ, bleeding yet triumphant, the only thing he called out was . . . Woman Power Transform Your Man, Your Marriage, Your Life . Copyright © by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Reprinted by permission of HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved. Available now wherever books are sold. Excerpted from Woman Power: Transform Your Man, Your Marriage, Your Life by Laura Schlessinger All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.

Table of Contents

Author's Notep. xv
Introductionp. xvii
Part 1 Yeah, But ... What If? Questions and Challenges About The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbandsp. 1
Part 2 Proper Caring: "Was It Good for You?" Assessing Yourself and Your Marriagep. 53
Part 3 Proper Respect: Girls Rule--Boys Drool: Sensitivity Training and Consciousness Raisingp. 85
Part 4 Proper Understanding: The Guys' Turn! What the Heck Are Men Thinking, Needing, and Wanting?p. 103
Part 5 Proper Feeding: Inspiration and Tips: Using Your Woman Power!p. 145
Endnotep. 223