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Married to an opposite : making personality differences work for you
Shackelford, Ron, 1944-
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Westport, Conn. : Praeger, [2003]

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x, 136 pages ; 25 cm
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The cause of clashes between spouses is not that they are from different planets. In fact, the colliding issues at hand may have nothing to do with gender. Seasoned marriage therapist Ron Shackelford explains that the issue at the heart of much marital discord is that the partners are opposite personality types. He cites a recent poll indicating that more than 50% of all couples bring different personality approaches to at least two of the four critical areas of marriage: decision-making, belief systems, means of energy replenishment, and approach to life. Understanding and appreciating these differences can not only bring new vigor and love to a marriage, but can also show the way to wonderful personal growth for each partner.

The core of this book builds on the work of Jung and Myers Briggs in the field of personality types, and there are occasional references to the general theology that has guided Shackelford, a retired pastor, through much of his life. The guide is clear, astute, and at times even amusing, making it an enlightening treatment that will strengthen insight, empathy, and respect for opposites--and ultimately revive marriages.

Author Notes

RON SHACKELFORD is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California and has more than 25 years experience counseling couples. He holds a Doctorate of Ministry in Marriage and Family Therapy from Fuller Theological Seminary.

Table of Contents

Why Opposites ARE Meant for Each Other Decision-Making
The Feeler and the Thinker
Collision Life Style Approaches
One by Impulse, One by Plan Energy Sources
The ""Let's Stay Home-No, Let's Go Out"" Leisure Conflict Belief Systems
The Skeptic and the Dreamer Dilemma Sex with an Opposite
Making It Good for Both