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If these walls could talk : a therapist reveals 25 stories of change and how they will work for you
Habib, Thomas A.
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La Costa, Calif. : Conifer Pub., [2004]

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288 pages ; 23 cm
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RC465 .H336 2004 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area
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There are moments of awe in psychotherapy, when the brilliant light of insight and understanding dawns upon the client... New paths and choices are discovered, old sources of pain are extinguished, childhood decisions are altered, and a chance to reconnect to a family member or spouse is found... If you have been wrestling with the question of your purpose in life... If you're looking for personal insight and the ability to understand and relate better to people, then If These Walls Could Talk will provide an experience that will improve your life, marriage, and family. Are you wasting your life on emotional decisions from your childhood? How can you really help your children become achievers? Are your expectations of love ruining your relationship? Do you know the twelve things to look for in a partner? If These Walls Could Talk invites you to sit down with an intuitive, caring clinical psychologist as he helps guide real people through their life journeys. Each chapter provides discoveries and insights that can dramatically improve your life. Book jacket.

Author Notes

Thomas A. Habib, Ph.D., is a skilled clinical psychologist

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Library Journal Review

Clinical psychologist Habib has noticed that when patients "transcend" (i.e., acknowledge, comprehend, and overcome) their particular problems, they usually end "up in a desirable place they'd never achieve without experiencing hardship." Hoping to impart their insight to general readers, he asked 25 patients (represented in 25 chapters) to grant him permission to share their cases. Habib runs down problems, ranging from fear to pressure, that keep us in "bondage" to our culture's negative views of change. As antidote, readers should stop accumulating "stuff" and instead commit to others. Healthy criticism of capitalism permeates the book, and certain chapters are sound if quite prescriptive (e.g., men should avoid women who are too materialistic). Libraries might also want to consider David Kundtz's clear Nothing's Wrong: A Man's Guide to Managing His Feelings. For larger public libraries. (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Endorsementsp. v
Disclaimerp. vii
Acknowledgmentsp. ix
Part 1 Introductionp. 1
Chapter 1 Before Closing the Doorsp. 5
Chapter 2 Behind Closed Doorsp. 11
Part 2 About Youp. 17
Chapter 3 Lives Without Time To Live: Wounded Warriorsp. 21
Chapter 4 When Dependency is Attractivep. 31
Chapter 5 Road Rage and Aggressionp. 39
Chapter 6 The Evening Newsp. 49
Chapter 7 Perfectionism and Procrastinationp. 55
Chapter 8 The Purgatory of Hopep. 65
Chapter 9 Self-Criticismp. 73
Chapter 10 Getting Olderp. 79
Chapter 11 Contentment Versus Happinessp. 87
Chapter 12 Finding Peacep. 93
Part 3 About Love and Marriagep. 101
Chapter 13 Romantic Ideals that Hurt: The Bridges of Madison Countyp. 105
Chapter 14 Love is Not a Constantp. 111
Chapter 15 Your Partner is a Reflection of Who You Arep. 119
Chapter 16 The Golden Fantasyp. 133
Chapter 17 Affairs and Pretty Womenp. 143
Chapter 18 He Wants Sex and She Wants to be Huggedp. 151
Chapter 19 Controlling Powerful Feelings: Relationships That Workp. 163
Chapter 20 Twelve Things Women Should Avoid in Menp. 171
Chapter 21 Twelve Things Men Should Avoid in Womenp. 185
Chapter 22 Before You Get Marriedp. 201
Part 4 About Parenting and Familiesp. 209
Chapter 23 Bedtime for Infants and Children: A Critical Beginningp. 213
Chapter 24 Raising Resilient Childrenp. 225
Chapter 25 Neglect or Indulgence: Knowing the Difference with Your Childrenp. 233
Chapter 26 Adult Children Who Hate to Visit their Parentsp. 245
Chapter 27 Underachieving Adult Childrenp. 255
Part 5 Conclusionp. 267
Chapter 28 Parting Thoughtsp. 271
References and Resourcesp. 277
About the Authorp. 279
Indexp. 281
Order Formp. 289