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Positive words, powerful results : simple ways to honor, affirm, and celebrate life
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Urban, Hal, 1940-
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Publication Information:
New York : Simon & Schuster, [2004]

©2004
Physical Description:
xvi, 205 pages ; 22 cm
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"A Fireside book."
Language:
English
ISBN:
9780743257695
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Book

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Summary

Hal Urban brings a lifetime of experience as a leading figure in the Character Education movement to this follow-up to LIFE'S GREATEST LESSONS, his phenonenal word-of-mouth bestseller that put him on the self-help map. POSITIVE WORDS, POWERFUL RESULTS reveals the awesome potential of a fundamental tool we all have at our fingertips: language. With his down-to-earth approach that blends clear-headed guidance with gentle humour, Urban reveals concrete strategies for how we can use words to heal and strengthen, build lasting relationships, improve performance, enhance morale, celebrate our emotions and transform our lives and the lives of those around us. Both prescriptive and uplifting, POSITIVE WORDS, POWERFUL RESULTS share simple truths about the many ways in which words make us human. As Mark Twain once said, 'I can live for two months on one good compliment.'


Author Notes

Hal Urban was a high school teacher for many years and also taught at the University of San Francisco


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Excerpts

Preface There's Nothing New Under the Sun... What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun. Is there anything of which one can say, "Look! This is something new"? It was here already long ago; it was here before our time. -- Ecclesiastes 1:9-10 ...or in This Book One of the observations that many readers of my first book, Life's Greatest Lessons, made was that I didn't try to sell them a "startling and new" formula for permanent success and total happiness. Instead, they expressed their appreciation for the way I'd pulled together some simple truths that had been around for a long time and presented them in a logical, commonsense manner that helped people get back on the right track. The CEO of a large insurance firm called and told me, "What you wrote about is so old it's revolutionary." And then he added, "But we need to be reminded about these old truths because too often we get sidetracked and forget about what's really important." I really liked that man. I liked him even more when he bought a book for every employee in his company. Hundreds of people have made similar comments, and each one was taken as a compliment. Because shedding new light on old truths was exactly what I was trying to do. Now I'm trying to do it again. You probably won't find anything new in this book about words and the way we use them. You'll just be reminded that what you say, and how you say it, can, indeed, be important. Even life changing. The world does not require so much to be informed as to be reminded. -- Hannah More Copyright (c) 2004 by Hal Urban Introduction Two Simple Reasons for Writing This Book 1. To Increase Awareness of the Impact Our Words Can Have We live in an ocean of words, but like a fish in water we are often not aware of it. -- Stuart Chase The above statement was written in 1953 by a scholar who conducted extensive research on the power of words. Much has changed since then. There are about a billion more people, the literacy rate has risen dramatically, countless new methods of communication are available to us, and we've added thousands of new words to our vocabulary. So the ocean of words we live in today dwarfs the one we lived in during the 1950s. But some things never change. We seem just as unaware of their impact today as we were fifty years ago. Maybe more unaware. I think this is so because we so often take things for granted. Words are tools that we've always had access to and have used every day since we started talking. Because they've always been there and because we use them so frequently, we get into verbal ruts. We often talk without thinking first and without being aware of the impact of our words. Yet they can have a powerful impact -- both on others and on ourselves. Kahlil Gibran, the much-loved poet from Lebanon, wrote more than thirty years ago that "...in much of your talking, thinking is half murdered." Again, I don't think much has changed. "Put your mind in gear before putting your mouth in motion" is one of those timeless axioms that we too often forget. I hope to offer several practical reasons here for honoring it and for teaching and helping others to do the same. We need it more than ever. 2. To Encourage the Use of Words That Celebrate and Affirm Life I can live for two months on one good compliment. -- Mark Twain It's been said that language is an index of civilization. What we hear all around us every day literally speaks volumes about our culture, our ethos, and our consideration for one another. I'm not alone in my belief that much of the language we've been hearing for the past thirty years has tarnished that civilization. In the late 1960s, people were urged to "let it all hang out," and they've been doing just that, particularly with words, ever since. Much of the language we hear today has a harshness to it. To be more specific, it's often crude, angry, and mean-spirited. We hear it just about everywhere we go and it comes from people of most age groups. Keep in mind that I said our civilization has been tarnished, not destroyed. What it needs is some tender loving care and a little polish. And I'm just optimistic enough to believe that we can apply that polish with a better choice of words. Shortly after the first George Bush was sworn in as president in 1989, he was asked what his vision was for the country. He said he wanted America to become a "kinder, gentler" nation. Many people, regardless of political persuasion, were in agreement. But what happened? His comment was belittled and made fun of in the media. Only proving, of course, that we really did need to become a "kinder, gentler" nation. I still think it's possible, and a good way to start would be to use kinder, gentler words. That's the theme of Chapter 10 in Life's Greatest Lessons. It's called "Kind Words Cost Little but Accomplish Much." I knew shortly after the first edition was published in 1992 that I wanted to expand on that particular lesson. Since then I've been listening, reading, conducting little experiments, and collecting anecdotes in order to support my theory that the words we use have a great impact on our lives...and on our society. So, in many ways, this book is an enlargement of that chapter, along with the ones on humor, respect, and thankfulness -- three more ways we can use words to enhance lives. Another experience has further convinced me to build on that theme. Since 1995 I've been speaking at schools, conferences, businesses, and places of worship about the relationship between good character and the quality of life. A major part of each of those presentations is about the power of kind words. In fact, I'm often asked to give keynote addresses about that specific topic. Each time I do, the response is overwhelmingly positive. It's a hopeful sign. In the preface to my first book I wrote the following: "I hope you will become part of the growing movement to return us to a society known for its civility, virtues, and old-fashioned goodness." The best tool we have for doing that is our language. It contains thousands of wonderful, positive, and life-affirming words. They're readily available, they're free, and we can use them any time we want. I encourage you, as I remind myself, to do it often. It's fun, it's positive, and it's rewarding. Our kind words can make a difference. Never believe that a few caring people can't change the world. For, indeed, that's all who ever have. -- Margaret Mead Copyright (c) 2004 by Hal Urban Excerpted from Positive Words, Powerful Results: Simple Ways to Honor, Affirm, and Celebrate Life by Hal Urban All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.

Table of Contents

Preface: There's Nothing New Under the Sun ...p. xi
Introduction: Two Simple Reasons for Writing This Bookp. xiii
Part 1 The Origins and Influence of Words
1. Words Make Us Humanp. 3
2. Words Can Change Livesp. 11
3. Words Can Hurt and Offendp. 21
4. Words Come from the Heartp. 35
5. Words Are Choicesp. 43
Part 2 The Win-Win Rewards of Positive Words
6. Joyful Words Celebrate Lifep. 57
7. Affirming Words Inspire Others ... and Ourselvesp. 67
8. Loving Words Build and Heal Relationshipsp. 81
9. Gracious Words Show Respect and Gratitudep. 92
10. Funny Words Make Us Laughp. 105
Part 3 Four Places Where Positive Words Can Work Wonders
11. Affectionate Words Build Strong Familiesp. 119
12. Gentle Words Teach Kindness in Our Schoolsp. 135
13. Supportive Words Boost Morale and Results at Workp. 149
14. Encouraging Words Enhance Performance and Fun in Sportsp. 160
Part 4 Two Final Thoughts on the Power of Positive Words
15. Kind Words in Writing Become Lasting Treasuresp. 177
16. Positive Words Add Joy to Life ... but Only in the Livingp. 187
Part 5 Summary and Conclusion: Always Have Something Good to Sayp. 197
Acknowledgmentsp. 203