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Back from betrayal : saving a marriage, a family, a life
Farbman, Suzy, 1944-
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First edition.
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South Boardman, Mich. : Crofton Creek Press, [2004]

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xii, 272 pages ; 24 cm
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HQ806 .F37 2004 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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Back from Betrayal is a beautifully written and brutally honest account of marital infidelity and the long journey back to reconciliation. Suzy Farbman was living the American dream: great kids, a marriage that had lasted nearly three decades, a successful career, and a comfortable lifestyle. But when she discovered her husband was having an affair, her dream turned to nightmare, her secure world crumbled. She was not alone. Experts tell us that in this country at least one of every three couples is touched by infidelity. And middle-aged couples today admit to twice the rate of infidelity as the preceding generation. While revelations about infidelity usually result in either divorce or an empty relationship, Suzy was determined to fight back. First for her own life. Then, if possible, for her marriage and family. Suzy Farbman?s personal odyssey is one of the first published by a woman who confronted infidelity and went on to save her marriage. It was a long and difficult strugg

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Suzy Farbman has been a journalist for more than thirty years

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Though she describes herself as "Generation S" one of the cultural "straddlers" who came of age in the 1960s Farbman admits she was more into pruning her rosebushes "than marching for peace." A virgin when she married her real estate developer husband in 1967, Farbman was a faithful, supportive wife for 30 years. She set aside her own career to raise their children, turning down job offers outside her husband's Detroit base of operations. She thought she had a very good marriage. Then her husband admitted after she'd become suspicious and brought him to "couples therapy" that he'd been having affairs with other women. Farbman was devastated. But rather than go straight to a divorce lawyer, she decided to deal with her pain and confusion and see if her marriage could be salvaged. She went to Onsite, a crisis intervention center in Tennessee, and also to the Deepak Chopra Institute. She consulted "spirit guides" and an astrologist. She tried realignment by "cranio-sacral massage." Her husband went to The Meadows, an Arizona facility for behavioral disorders, and together they studied "A Course in Miracles." After much rethinking and revising of their interpersonal skills, the Farbmans were able to celebrate their 35th wedding anniversary together stronger, wiser and happier. Statistically, it's uncommon for couples to recover from infidelity. Culturally, it seems even odder for middle-aged, upper-crust Midwesterners to consult New Age therapists for healing. Still, readers without the means to participate in such far-flung seminars may find inspiration from reading this story. (June) Forecast: Oprah will be taping an interview with Farbman in May. It will air in an upcoming episode, which should spike sales for this small press title. (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsp. ix
Forewordp. xi
Prologue: Don't Worry About Itp. 1
1 A Kiss to Build a Dream Onp. 9
2 High Hopesp. 15
3 Onward and Upwardp. 23
4 Happy Trailsp. 33
5 Falling Apartp. 41
6 Chasing the Lightp. 55
7 Facing Factsp. 73
8 To Hell and Backp. 87
9 Learning to Live Centeredp. 117
10 Back to the Real Worldp. 133
11 A New Age New Mep. 149
12 Blossoming Outp. 161
13 Rebuildingp. 173
14 Finding My Heartp. 183
15 Tough Talkingp. 195
16 Ups and Downsp. 199
17 Opening Upp. 209
18 The Last to Knowp. 217
19 Starting Overp. 225
20 A New Marriagep. 233
Epiloguep. 241
Afterword: In Burton's Words: Giving Up Deceptionp. 249
Appendix A Reader's Guidep. 265