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Healing from family rifts : ten steps to finding peace after being cut off from a family member
Sichel, Mark.
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New York : McGraw-Hill, [2004]

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xiv, 210 pages ; 23 cm
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Includes index.
Acknowledge and deal with the shock -- Start to live, laugh and be happy now -- Discover your family roles -- Understand your family myths -- Learn from successful families -- Let go of resentments -- Make the first move -- Build your second-chance family -- Cultivate gratitude and emotional generosity -- Make meaning out of your experience.
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Ten steps to surviving a family rift, finding peace, and moving on

A family rift is one of the most traumatic experiences a person can face. It can have a profound effect on virtually every aspect of life, causing depression, relationship problems, and even physical illness. Healing From Family Rifts offers hope to those coping with a split in their families. Family therapist Mark Sichel addresses the pain and shame connected with family rifts and offers a way through the crisis and on toward healing and fulfillment. Uniquely, Sichel does not assume that every rift will or even should be mended. Instead, he offers ways to recover from any outcome, including:

A 10-step process to come to terms with the family dynamics that led to the split Methods to find peace and personal reconciliation Skills that help to build a second family of people whose values are in line with one's own Techniques to fight feelings of guilt when faced with a family rift Includes inspiring and instructive stories drawn from the author's patients that help readers put their own situations in perspective.

Author Notes

Mark Sichel (New York, NY) is a therapist and licensed clinical social worker who has counseled hundreds of clients who have suffered from family rifts. He is the founder and editor of the award-winning mental health website

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Library Journal Review

These self-help manuals for adults seeking to better their family relationships emphasize that readers can change only themselves and their own reactions-not the actions of others. A therapist and licensed clinical social worker, Sichel concentrates on relationships where one family member refuses contact with another, not limiting his discussion to parent-child rifts. Among other strategies, his ten steps lead readers to deal with their own trauma, learn to love themselves, understand family myths and roles, build supportive relationships with others (their "second-chance family"), and try to heal the break if possible. Drawing on stories from Sichel's patients and from personal experience (his father broke with him twice), this book is sure to be read eagerly by those in difficult family situations. For public libraries. Atkins, a licensed therapist and media commentator, addresses parent-adult child relationships from the perspective of the adult child. At times highly specific, her advice directs readers to change their behaviors to improve relations with their parents. She advises letting go of anger and unrealistic expectations and then using such tools as flattery, voice tone, manipulation (called saviorizing), honesty, and withdrawal to change interactions. Readers who desire a more democratic approach-that is, one that takes into account the perspective of parents-should look elsewhere; Atkins, a regular on the Today Show, counsels a specific audience. Also for public libraries.-Kay Brodie, Chesapeake Coll., Wye Mills, MD (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

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Title: Healing from Family Rifts Author: Sichel ISBN: 0-07-141242-5
Category: Self-Help Trim Size: 6 x 9 UPC: 639785385417
Price: $14.95 [category] Self-Help Make peace with yourself and reclaim your life with Mark Sichel's powerful ten-step healing program
That's it. I've had it
I never want to see or hear from you again.
Those words may have caused great anguish, or great relief, at the moment they were spoken--depending on whether you were the giver or the receiver of the powerful punch
But now yo