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Realistically ever after : finding happiness when he's not Prince Charming, you're not Snow White, and life's not a fairy tale
Ferrare, Cristina.
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[Emmaus, Penn.] : Rodale ; [New York?] : Distributed to the book trade by St. Martin's Press, [2004]

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xi, 194 pages : illustrations ; 24 cm
The illusion of the cover photo -- The fear of failure -- When Prince Charming falls off his horse -- The myth of a painless childbirth -- Remarriage and the Brady bunch syndrome -- Selective memory : the delivery room revisited -- Family vacations -- Raising teenagers -- Setting boundaries and letting go -- Volleyball mom -- Starting over.
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HQ759 .F43 2004 Adult Non-Fiction Open Shelf

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What if living happily ever after isn't the fairy tale you thought it would be? Who would have guessed that Prince Charming snores, or that his horse was a car with a cracked windshield? Cristina Ferrare shows us, with the trademark wit and candor that have made her a beloved media personality and bestselling author, that life isn't a fairy tale. But look at it the right way (and you will after this book) and the reality is wonderful in its own right.

Using examples from her own life, Cristina illustrates that the dirty dishes, hungry kids, cranky boss, and messy house can be just as much a part of joy as rare romantic moments, perfectly behaved children, a well-earned promotion and raise, and a spotless home. Her journey through "a fairy tale interrupted" is one that will strike a chord with both working women and stay-at-home moms.

Thousands of women with low libido identified with Cristina's voice in Okay, So I Don't Have a Headache . Reading Realistically Ever After , women everywhere will see themselves, their families, coworkers, and neighbors in her stories of life's everyday frustrations and hilarious predicaments. And they'll realize that they don't need a hero on a white horse-they've already got everything it takes to be happy.

Author Notes

Cristina Ferrare began modeling while still in high school and went on to grace the covers of top fashion magazines, including Cosmopolitan, Vogue, and Harper's Bazaar. In addition to modeling, she also worked as an actress and a spokesperson for a leading cosmetics company. Cristina became one of the most recognized faces in the country through her work as a co-host for numerous TV shows, including A.M. Los Angeles and Home and Family. The author of three books, she is the founder of Cristina Ferrare Products. She has four children, three stepchildren, and three grandchildren. Cristina lives with her husband, Tony, and their two youngest daughters in Los Angeles

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Publisher's Weekly Review

?This memoir cum self-help guide combines humor and pathos to relate the ups and downs of marriage, divorce and remarriage. Ferrare, a talk show host, former supermodel and author of So I Don?t Have a Headache, married twice before she met her current husband, Tony. (Her second groom was John DeLorean, the car entrepreneur arrested in a sting operation for dealing cocaine.) Now she and Tony have been together for 20 years, blending three children from his former union with two from hers, along with two daughters they had together. Ferrare details how, on starting out, her fantasies of a harmonious Brady Bunch-like family were soon overturned by the realities of integrating people with differing feelings and needs. Her six-year-old daughter, Kathryn, showed her disdain for stepfather Tony by kicking him in the shin at their first introduction. The family?s first vacation in Hawaii with all the kids was marred by childcare problems and arguments that taught everyone nothing. As the book progresses, Ferrare describes how she and Tony handled the difficulties of raising teenagers, including incidents involving drug use and abuse. According to the author, however, living in reality has brought them closer to one another, in a marriage that Ferrare states is based on ?spirituality and commitment to God.? The book?s release is scheduled to tie-in to the launch of Ferrare?s line of furniture on the Home Shopping Network. (May) Copyright 2004 Reed Business Information.

Library Journal Review

Shallowness reigns in these two titles, one by a marginally famous woman, the other about a bona fide icon. Former supermodel Ferrare (Okay, So I Don't Have a Headache: What I Learned (and What All Women Need To Know) About PMS, Hormones, Stress, Diet, Menopause-and Sex) fails to demonstrate any personal growth in documenting her silver-spoon failures. She bemoans not landing the cohosting job that went to Kelly Rippa and overeating; she also crows about her proudest achievement-creating jewelry sold on cable TV. Libraries should instead consider Jackie Kallen's Hit Me with Your Best Shot: A Fight Plan for Dealing with All of Life's Hard Knocks (now in paperback) instead of this insipid read. Libraries should be aware, however, that Ferrare launched a new furniture line in April on the Home Shopping Network, so there could be demand. Meanwhile, former Colgate-Palmolive VP Flaherty (Talk Your Way to the Top) fairly idolizes Camelot's First Lady. In chapters padded with cursory biographical snippets, she purports to explore what Jackie "taught" the world. Take, for instance, the chapter "Men and Marriage," wherein readers learn that Jackie made herself attractive and "followed her heart." Much is made of the "beautiful, cultured, and intelligent" icon of our collective (and idealized) cultural memory. Instead of wasting money on this hardcover trifle, commemorate the tenth anniversary of Jackie's death by dusting off some respectable biographies, e.g., Sarah Bradford's America's Queen: A Life of Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis or even Pamela Clarke Keogh's photographic Jackie Style. (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Introductionp. 1
1. The Illusion of the Cover Photop. 11
2. The Fear of Failurep. 23
3. When Prince Charming Falls Off His Horsep. 39
4. The Myth of a Painless Childbirthp. 51
5. Remarriage and the Brady Bunch Syndromep. 67
6. Selective Memory: The Delivery Room Revisitedp. 85
7. Family Vacationsp. 103
8. Raising Teenagersp. 131
9. Setting Boundaries and Letting Gop. 149
10. Volleyball Momp. 159
11. Starting Overp. 175
Epilogue: Fairy Tales with a Twistp. 189