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Truth in dating : finding love by getting real
Campbell, Susan M., 1941-
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Publication Information:
Tiburon, Calif. : H.J. Kramer/New World Library, [2004]

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xxii, 313 pages ; 22 cm
Why truth in dating? -- Telling the truth ... what a concept! -- Honesty: the only hope for relationships -- The ten truth skills -- Is truth in dating for you? -- Dating 101 -- Getting clear about what you really want -- Meeting new people: you're attracted, now what? -- Flirting with presence: aware communication can be fun -- The first date: getting started without getting ahead of yourself -- Advanced dating -- The couple's journey: romance is only the beginning -- What to do when your buttons are pushed -- Deep dating: can you love your partner's shadow? -- Conflict, disappointment, and anger: how to disagree in a healthy way -- Emotional openness and sexual intimacy: allowing your vulnerability to show -- Ten common myths about sex and intimacy -- Dating dilemmas: how to be real in tough situations -- What can you realistically expect in a relationship? -- Ending it -- How to say good-bye consciously -- How to let go and move on -- Concluding thoughts.
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Truth in Dating provides a set of simple yet profound awareness practices that support finding and relating to your soulmate. Rather than play the usual "dating game" of trying to be something they aren't, readers will learn how to relate truthfully with those they date. This honesty will help them understand what they crave and need in a relationship and thus evaluate suitors. It will also help them to realistically examine what a romantic partner can - and can't - offer in the way of fulfillment and happiness.

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Library Journal Review

Lowndes (How To Make Anyone Fall in Love with You) dubs the titular man or woman a "Royal"; while nabbing one is the goal here, avoiding the frogs that just might not turn into fairy-tale princes (or princesses) also largely figures. A crass, calculated tone of subterfuge permeates the portrayal of the Royal camp as a kingdom that readers infiltrate to capture a rich or gorgeous Royal. Disguise, fakery, and deceit (e.g., "diet and dress to disguise deficiencies") are nearly constant. Though 48 main points are largely fine (e.g., brains beat beefcake), Lowndes's tone grows wearisome. Readers may find the fatalistic "once a frog, always a frog" attitude demeaning; indeed, isn't everyone someone's frog to some degree? (Index not seen.) Ten years ago, psychologist Campbell, then 50, found herself single after many years of marriage. To pick up the pieces, she put her considerable professional wisdom and life experience to work. The lesson she shares here: be yourself. An antidote to Lowndes's cynicism, Campbell's personal, encouraging book (an ironic follow-up of sorts to her preceding work, The Couple's Journey: Intimacy as a Path to Wholeness) focuses on keeping dignity and integrity intact through the dating process. While relating her own experiences and those of others, she advocates using "dating as an awareness practice" for learning, growing, and ultimately being dependent on a relationship for a sense of well-being. "Truth skills" (e.g., giving and asking for feedback, sharing mixed emotions) help readers remain honest with themselves and with prospective mates. Campbell's book is recommended for all libraries; Lowndes enjoys a high media profile, so there may be demand for her book, but a much stronger choice is Barbara Dafoe Whitehead's Why There Are No Good Men Left: The Romantic Plight of the New Single Woman. (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.