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No regrets : a ten-step program for living in the present and leaving the past behind
Beazley, Hamilton, 1943-
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Hoboken, N.J. : John Wiley & Sons, [2004]

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xi, 220 pages ; 23 cm
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Includes index.
Introduction : something remarkable is possible -- Understanding regrets -- Ten steps to letting go -- Using spiritual and psychological tools -- Step one : listing regrets -- Step two : examining regrets -- Step three : changing toxic thought patterns -- Step four : grieving losses -- Step five : making amends -- Step six : identifying lessons and gifts -- Step seven : developing compassion -- Step eight : forgiving others -- Step nine : forgiving ourselves -- Step ten : living free of regret.
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BF575.R33 B43 2004 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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At last, freedom from burdensome regrets

Everyone has regrets. But not everyone can overcome them, even when they interfere with the enjoyment of life. With this book as your guide, you′ll learn how to let go of past mistakes, lost opportunities, and failed expectations to live richly in a present filled with hope and new possibilities.

This wise, compassionate, and practical guide offers profound insights into the nature of regrets and how to overcome them. Grounded in proven psychotherapeutic and spiritual principles, No Regrets brings together the insights of mental health professionals, spiritual teachers, and self-help experts.

In No Regrets, you′ll find:
∗ A structured ten-step program for letting go of burdensome regrets
∗ Powerful spiritual and psychological tools for overcoming regret, including creative visualization, journaling, affirmations, thought analysis, meditation, and sharing with others
∗ Insights into toxic thought patterns that create and support regrets
∗ Persistent myths about forgiveness that keep us trapped in our regrets
∗ Inspiring stories of people who have freed themselves from regret

No Regrets will show you a way out of the pain, guilt, and shame of the past and how to create a rich and rewarding life in the present.

"Hamilton Beazley has the distinct ability to understand the most complex inner workings of the human spirit and mind. No Regrets is destined to take its place alongside the other great self-help guides of our time."
-Howard J. Shaffer, Ph.D., Associate Professor and Director
Division on Addictions, Harvard Medical School

Author Notes

Hamilton Beazley, Ph.D., is scholar-in-residence at St. Edward's University, Austin, Texas and a leading self-help expert who has appeared on Oprah, A Current Affair, NBC, and CNN

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Publisher's Weekly Review

A former president of the National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependency applies the principles of AA's 12-Step program to the problems of regret in this comforting and reasonable book. "Those of us who have wrestled with burdensome regrets know that the process of letting go is not as simple as people without burdensome regrets make it sound," Beazley explains. His prescription for letting go and moving on takes the form of 10 steps: listing regrets, examining regrets, changing toxic thought patterns, grieving losses, making amends, identifying lessons and gifts, developing compassion, forgiving others, forgiving oneself and living free of regret. Beazley recognizes that "working" through these steps can be a long and difficult process, and he suggests numerous "spiritual and psychological tools"-such as praying and journal writing-to help readers along their way. There's nothing fundamentally new to Beazley's approach for dealing with the obsessive anger and sorrow that can surround a long-harbored regret; his plan is based on well-known principles in psychology. But readers struggling with these issues will appreciate his measured tone and his many examples of people who have been able to move forward by coming to terms with their past. (Jan.) Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsp. ix
Introduction: Something Remarkable Is Possiblep. 1
Part I. Preparation for Letting Go
1. Understanding Regretsp. 9
2. Ten Steps to Letting Gop. 26
3. Using Spiritual and Psychological Toolsp. 37
Part II. The Ten Steps to Letting Go of Regrets
4. Step One: Listing Regretsp. 63
5. Step Two: Examining Regretsp. 72
6. Step Three: Changing Toxic Thought Patternsp. 80
7. Step Four: Grieving Lossesp. 99
8. Step Five: Making Amendsp. 107
9. Step Six: Identifying Lessons and Giftsp. 127
10. Step Seven: Developing Compassionp. 142
11. Step Eight: Forgiving Othersp. 151
12. Step Nine: Forgiving Ourselvesp. 170
13. Step Ten: Living Free of Regretp. 187
Appendix A Recommended Readingp. 203
Appendix B Summary of the Ten-Step Action Listsp. 205
Appendix C Quick Reference: Tools, Principles, and Toxic Thought Patternsp. 209
Indexp. 213