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Lasting love : the 5 secrets of growing a vital, conscious relationship
Hendricks, Gay.
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Emmaus, Pa. : Rodale, [2004]

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xxii, 248 pages ; 23 cm
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Includes index.
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In this long-awaited follow-up to their seminal Conscious Loving , Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks take on two of the most pressing problems that sap vitality and energy from our committed relationships: how to forge a closer relationship that still allows each partner full creative autonomy, and how to generate the passion and preserve the harmony essential to keeping long-term partnerships alive and blooming.

Lasting Love grew out of the Hendricks' laboratory of their 23-year marriage as well as their 10-year study of more than 2,000 long-term, committed couples. They discovered that the most common couples conflicts could be traced to at least one of five root causes:

* An imbalance between the creative energy each partner contributes to the relationship
* A lack of emotional honesty
* An unwillingness to accept responsibility for everyday issues
* Deep-seated commitment problems
* A deficiency of daily appreciations

Using these insights as a starting point, the Hendricks devised a program based on five vital actions that simultaneously lead to a deeper flow of intimacy between partners and greater creative freedom for each individual:

* Spend time expressing your own creativity rather than focusing on "fixing" your partner
* Eliminate the barrier to speaking and hearing the truth about everything
* Break the cycle of blame and criticism
* Make commitments you can really stand by
* Become a master of verbal and nonverbal appreciation

Filled with helpful real-life scenarios and straightforward advice, Lasting Love is an essential guide for anyone involved in a long-term relationship who wants it not only to last but to flourish.

Author Notes

A professor of counseling for 21 years in the school of education at the University of Colorado, Gay Hendricks earned his doctorate degree from Stanford University in 1974. Originally trained as a traditional psychologist, a life-altering experience caused Hendricks to rethink his approach to healing patients. Adopting a body-mind integration theory, Hendricks opened the Hendricks Institute to teach people core skills for conscious living.

Hendricks is the author of over 20 books in the field of education, transpersonal psychology, and centering, including Conscious Breathing, The Centering Book, Learning to Love Yourself, and At the Speed of Life. His work has also been mentioned or reviewed in numerous magazines and newspapers, including Self, GQ, Psychology Today, Yoga Journal, USA Today, and the Edmonton Journal.

(Bowker Author Biography)

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Library Journal Review

Among the plethora of guides for building a lasting relationship we find this sequel to the Hendricks's best-selling Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment. The authors, both therapists, believe that ordinary people can simultaneously reach their creative potential and grow closer to their partners if they are committed to the process and possess a good "map," that is, this book. Through their work counseling long-term couples, they have isolated five trouble areas (e.g., commitment, sharing responsibility). In five chapters-each followed by an action plan of commitment, ongoing practice, and a ten-second technique-they cover simple ways to help couples navigate those areas and change the core dynamics of their relationship. The last quarter contains activities for improving communication. The information is packaged in a handy, easy-to-use format, full of case stories and examples of dialog. While the material is sound, and some readers might find a few helpful suggestions, only the most dedicated partners would work through the rigorous exercises and activities provided here. An optional purchase for public libraries, though there may be demand.-Deborah Bigelow, Leonia P.L., NJ (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.