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Title:
Losses in later life : a new way of walking with God
Author:
Sullender, R. Scott.
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Edition:
Second edition.
Publication Information:
New York : Haworth Pastoral Press, [1999]

©1999
Physical Description:
xi, 186 pages ; 21 cm
Language:
English
ISBN:
9780789006271

9780789006288
Format :
Book

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Achieve faith and understanding when dealing with the loss of a loved one or a major change in your life!

Losses in Later Life: A New Way Of Walking with God, Second Edition, focuses on seven major losses: loss of youth, loss of family, loss of parents, loss of work, loss of spouse, loss of health, and loss of identity. This second edition has been reworked with new research to include updated information about the loss of independence and several additional losses not discussed in the previous edition. You will explore the path to becoming a spiritually mature person who has faith and is able to grieve, let go, and release what is lost in order to live a mentally healthy and rewarding life.

With this valuable book, you will explore the issues of losses in later life from an approach that integrates psychology and spirituality to help you understand that loss is an inevitable and significant factor in the lives of people over the age of 40. Discussing the dynamics of loss and grief and defining spiritual health, Losses in Later Life examines the seven most common losses of the second half of your life from a positive perspective. Some of the areas you will read about include: spiritual health and grief the process of grieving abnormal and unhealthy grief such as worshipping a deceased person or other loss in a way that mimics the worship of a god marker events such as changing careers, the loss of dreams, and the loss of youth feeling you have a limited amount of time left finding new meanings of "old" and learning to embrace the present spiritual and psychological understanding for the loss of children to death or adulthood, the loss of parents, and the loss of a spouse Caregivers and anyone interested in the psychology and spirituality of aging will find excellent help and suggestions from Losses in Later Life. This book is a necessary tool for spiritually assisting your times of grief and confusion. With proven suggestions and advice, Losses in Later Life serves to enlighten your path through the later years and enrich your soul.


Author Notes

R. Scott Sullender, PhD, is the Executive Director at the Samaritan Counseling Center in Upland, California. He is also an ordained Presbyterian minister, a licensed psychologist in the state of California, and a Diplomate with the American Association of Pastoral Counselors. Dr. Sullender has 25 years of professional experience as a psychologist, pastor, chaplain, pastoral counselor, and administrator.


Table of Contents

Prefacep. ix
Introduction to the Second Editionp. xi
Chapter 1. The Grief Dynamicp. 1
Grief's Pain and Its Defensesp. 1
The Process of Grievingp. 7
Grief and Meaningp. 10
Grief in Later Lifep. 12
Loss Is Subjectivep. 15
Chapter 2. Spiritual Health and Griefp. 17
Making Godsp. 18
Temporary Godsp. 20
Gods You Can Touchp. 22
False Promisesp. 24
A Cadre of Slavesp. 25
God Seeks After Usp. 27
Idolatry and Abnormal Griefp. 28
Spiritual Health in Later Lifep. 29
Chapter 3. The Loss of Youthp. 31
The Changes of the Bodyp. 31
Marker Eventsp. 33
The Changing Careerp. 34
Loss of Dreamsp. 36
Eschatology and Lossp. 38
Society's Pervasive Influencep. 40
Finding Positive Meanings for "Old"p. 41
Embracing the Presentp. 43
Chapter 4. The Loss of Familyp. 47
A Complexity of Emotionsp. 47
The Process Character of This Lossp. 50
Ambivalent Feelingsp. 52
The Wounded Parentsp. 54
Variations on the Themep. 56
The Physiological Componentp. 58
The Passage to the Empty Nestp. 59
From Children to Friendsp. 60
New Possibilities for Caringp. 63
Chapter 5. The Loss of Parentsp. 65
The Aging Parentp. 65
Aging Brings Changesp. 67
The Slow Deathp. 70
The Ignored Griefp. 72
Guilt in Griefp. 73
Baggage from the Pastp. 76
Can't Go Home Againp. 78
New Identity, New Life Stagep. 79
Chapter 6. The Loss of Workp. 81
The Changing Face of Retirementp. 81
Retirement and the Meaning of Workp. 83
The Loss of Statusp. 86
Loss of Friendsp. 88
Retirement and the Idolization of Workp. 90
Doing and Beingp. 93
Theology of Work and Playp. 95
New Challenge: A Ritual for Retirementp. 97
Chapter 7. The Loss of Spousep. 101
The Multifaceted Lossp. 101
Feminization of Deathp. 103
The Unexpected Lossp. 105
Loss by Divorcep. 107
Lonelinessp. 108
Learning to Reach Outp. 109
Learning Self-Sufficiencyp. 111
Avoid Making Idolsp. 113
Changing Identitiesp. 115
Letting Go, Againp. 117
Chapter 8. The Loss of Healthp. 119
The First Experience of This Lossp. 119
Changing Our Assumptions About Lifep. 121
Responses to the Loss of Healthp. 123
Health and Salvationp. 125
The Loss of Major Body Functionsp. 127
Chronic Health Problemsp. 129
Transcending the Bodyp. 131
The Value of Being Handicappedp. 132
Chapter 9. The Loss of Independencep. 135
Loss of Homep. 136
Residential Changes As a Function of Independencep. 138
Loss of Mobilityp. 139
Clinging to Lost Independencep. 141
Loss of Financial Securityp. 142
Loss of Controlp. 143
A Culture of Independencep. 146
Letting Go, to Receivep. 147
The Value of Surrenderp. 149
Chapter 10. Faith and Successful Agingp. 151
The Final Lossp. 151
Avoiding Painp. 154
Learning to Suffer Wellp. 156
Faith As the Trustp. 157
Faith Is Letting Gop. 159
Idolatry and Avoiding Griefp. 161
Successful Agingp. 162
Faith and Aging Wellp. 164
Notesp. 167
Selected Bibliographyp. 179
Indexp. 181

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