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Forgiving and reconciling : bridges to wholeness and hope
Worthington, Everett L., Jr., 1946-
Revised edition.
Publication Information:
Downers Grove, Ill. : InterVarsity Press, [2003]

Physical Description:
268 pages : illustrations ; 23 cm
General Note:
Rev. ed. of: Five steps to forgiveness. c2001.
Why forgive? -- Unforgiveness, justice and forgiveness -- The Christian foundation of forgiving -- R: Recall the hurt -- E: Empathize -- A: Altruistic gift of forgiveness -- C: Commit publicly to forgive -- H: Hold onto forgiveness -- Decisions -- Discussion -- Detoxification -- Devotion.
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A 2003 Templeton Foundation Book of DistinctionAll of us have suffered painful emotional and relational hurts. God calls us to forgive those who have hurt us, but that's often easier said than done. We don't usually know how to forgive others, nor are we always sure if we have truly forgiven them.Psychologist and counselor Everett L. Worthington Jr., the leading Christian researcher on forgiveness, says that forgiving is a gift we give to others. When we offer forgiveness to others as an altruistic gift, it is more effective than when we forgive only for our own benefit in an effort to "get over" the hurt. True forgiveness is accomplished through a careful process of understanding both the offense and the offender and taking active steps to forgiveness. In this insightful and practical book, Worthington provides a wealth of clinically proven tools and exercises for moving toward forgiveness.Worthington's expertise comes not only from years of scientific research but also from the experience of the brutal murder of his own mother. His convictions were put to the test as he worked through his conflicting emotions and rage toward the murderer. He found that the principles of Christian forgiveness enabled him to forgive even his mother's killer.While forgiveness is something that we can do on our own, reconciliation involves another party. Worthington brings both themes together and shows how we can move beyond forgiveness and cross the bridge to reconciliation. This book, previously published as Five Steps to Forgiveness, has been fully revised to make clear the scriptural foundations of Christian forgiveness. Biblical, authoritative and pastorally sound, this guide will be of help to anyone who wants to find the freedom of forgiveness.

Author Notes

He is professor and chair of psychology at Virginia Commonwealth University. He is executive director of A Campaign for Forgiveness Research, which in collaboration with the John Templeton Foundation, has raised funding for more than 35 research projects studying forgiveness. He is an active leader in secular and Christian counseling fields, and has appeared on CNN, as well as God Morning America, and other national shows. He lives in Richmond, Virginia.

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Library Journal Review

A revised version of Worthington's out-of-print Five Steps to Forgiveness, this book incorporates further research and also specifically places forgiveness within a Christian context. Dealing not only with the theology but also with the psychology and even neurology of forgiveness, Worthington (psychology, Virginia Commonwealth Univ.; To Forgive Is Human) provides a grasp of both the process and the desirability of forgiving. Using diagrams and clear explanations, he divides the process into three major parts: "Why We Forgive," "How To Reach Forgiveness," and "How To Reconcile." He then gives very specific steps and encourages the reader to follow them, first for small injuries and then for progressively deeper wounds. The goal is detoxification and release from debilitating bitterness, as well as real interpersonal reconciliation. "Forgiveness is the twist in the plot that allows us to tell a story that helps us move forward," says Worthington. Recommended for public libraries and Christian-oriented collections where Five Steps To Forgiveness is not already available.-C. Robert Nixon, M.L.S., Lafayette, IN (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Preface to the Revised Edition
Part 1 Why We Forgive
1 Why Forgive?
2 Unforgiveness, Justice and Forgiveness
3 The Christian Foundation of Forgiving
Part 2 How to REACH Forgiveness
4 R: Recall the Hurt
5 E: Empathize
6 A: Altruistic Gift of Forgiveness
7 C: Commit Publicly to Forgive
8 H. Hold onto Forgiveness
Part 3 How to Reconcile
9 Decisions
10 Discussion
11 Detoxification
12 Devotion
Subject Index
Scripture Index