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Buddhism for mothers : a calm approach to caring for yourself and your children
Napthali, Sarah, 1967-
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Crows Nest, NSW : Allen & Unwin, [2003]

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xiv, 224 pages ; 21 cm
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HQ759 .N37 2003 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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Addressing the often-overlooked spiritual needs of mothers, this book discusses Buddhist teachings as applied to the everyday challenges and stresses of raising children. Offered are ways for mothers to reconnect with their inner selves and become calmer and happier--with the recognition that a happier mother will be a better parent. This realistic look at motherhood acknowledges the sorrows as well as the joys of mothering and offers real and achievable coping strategies for mothers to renew their lives on a deep level.

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Publisher's Weekly Review

Buddhist practitioner Napthali has written an eminently practical book that gives frazzled mothers usable advice and empathy. At a time in their lives when women must balance the pulls of instinct, hormonally charged emotion and familial and social expectations, it is both possible and highly beneficial to practice Buddhism. While Buddhism has a long history of monastic practice and application, its modern expansion into the West has emphasized its relevance to householders. Parenting books are a logical application, though still relatively few in number (e.g. Jacqueline Kramer's Buddha Mom: The Path of Mindful Mothering). In a highly selective culling of teachings, Napthali wisely focuses on maternal mind states and how Buddhism can give a mother insight and literal breathing space before she responds to any parenting situation. The essential Buddhist teaching that all things are impermanent is highly relevant when responding to, for example, a toddler throwing a tantrum in public. The book is perhaps less deep than those written by longtime teachers, as so many Buddhist books are. But precisely because she is not a teacher and is in the midst of mothering, Napthali offers the approachable and authentic perspective of a rank-and-file practitioner who lives the techniques and situations she writes about. This book will be most useful for mothers of young children, providing them spiritual resources at a life stage when women need all the help they can get. (Oct.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Library Journal Review

What do motherhood and the concept of self-reliance have in common with Buddhist philosophy? In a familiar, conversational style, Napthali, a mother and a Buddhist writer, thoughtfully explores this question, teaming Buddhist teachings (e.g., to be truthful, compassionate, and tolerant) with the ordinary experiences of mothers. She aims to convey the message that developing inner resources will help women nurture themselves so that they may parent wisely and well. With simple instructions for meditative practice and a one-minute breath meditation, the author guides busy women in the art of transforming their lives in the midst of chaos. She asks good spiritual questions, too-the real strength of the book-e.g., How am I interpreting a given situation? Am I upset due to unsolved family issues? One criticism is a lack of illustrations. Ultimately, what readers learn is that treating our children as though they are respected parts of ourselves hastens compassion toward others in our inner circle, rewarding us with less isolation and loneliness in our daily lives. For all public libraries in a category bridging self-help and comparative religion.-Lisa Liquori, M.L.S., Syracuse, NY (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsp. vii
Prefacep. ix
Chapter 1 Buddhism and motherhoodp. 1
Chapter 2 Parenting mindfullyp. 17
Chapter 3 Finding calmp. 41
Chapter 4 Dealing with angerp. 59
Chapter 5 Worrying about our childrenp. 79
Chapter 6 Creating loving relationshipsp. 99
Chapter 7 Living with partnersp. 123
Chapter 8 Finding happiness and losing our self-imagep. 145
Chapter 9 Meditatingp. 165
Chapter 10 Putting it into practicep. 185
Appendix 1 The noble eightfold pathp. 202
Appendix 2 Helpful booksp. 206
Appendix 3 Helpful websitesp. 210
Appendix 4 From the scripturesp. 212
Appendix 5 Buddhism for mothers of newbornsp. 215
Bibliographyp. 219
Indexp. 222