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Long distance relationships : the complete guide
Guldner, Gregory.
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Publication Information:
Corona, CA : JFMilne Publications, [2003]

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viii, 216 pages : illustrations ; 23 cm
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"Proven strategies for building and maintaining a successful relationship when you have to be apart"--Cover.
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HQ801 .G84 2003 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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Based on groundbreaking research, and written by the leading authority in the field, Long Distance Relationships teaches the little-known but critical secrets to a happy and healthy long distance relationship. The first work to comprehensively review, cite, and synthesize five decades of research on separated couples, Long Distance Relationships is the definitive guide for the more than 3 million couples who have to be apart.

Author Notes

Dr. Gregory Guldner, a graduate of Stanford Medical School and Purdue University's Clinical Psychology program, is the world's leading authority on long distance relationships

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Long-distance relationships, or LDRs, have a bad rap, claims Guldner (M.S., clinical psychology), who debunks myths and corrects common misperceptions. In terms of success/failure ratios, his research shows that LDRs are nearly identical to "plain vanilla" relationships; "you, rather than the numbers, are in control of your relationship's destiny." Readers will find numerous practical tips (e.g., send frequent emails and letters), but clear communication is the make-or-break factor: couples who have clear, consensual agreement about expectations, ground rules, intimacy, autonomy, and the mechanics of the arrangement generally succeed. Personal stories humanize the text, and Guldner admirably relates research results in a conversational tone. Benefits of LDRs include "more free time" and "for manythe perfect blend of independence and support to nourish self-esteem and personal growth." Real-life strategies and unbiased information will comfort those in or considering an LDR. An excellent choice for collections serving those in the diplomatic service and U.S. Armed Forces (the author is also an officer in the army reserve); also consider Fred L. Miller and Mark Bryan's charming How To Calm Down: Three Deep Breaths to Peace of Mind. (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Chapter 1 Welcome to the World of Long-Distance Relationshipsp. 1
Chapter 2 Do LDRs Really Work?p. 5
Part I The Separation Inventory: Exploring Your Long-Distance Relationship
Chapter 3 The Separation Inventory: Part Ip. 11
Chapter 4 The Separation Inventory: Part II--Your Relationshipp. 19
Chapter 5 Exploring Your Separation Inventory: How Far Is Too Far and How Long is Too Long?p. 27
Chapter 6 Exploring Your Separation Inventory: Your Personalityp. 37
Chapter 7 Exploring Your Separation Inventory: Support from Friends and Familyp. 47
Chapter 8 Exploring Your Separation Inventory: Your Relationshipp. 53
Part II Strategies for Separated Couples
Chapter 9 The Advantages of LDRsp. 61
Chapter 10 The Emotional Stages of Separationp. 69
Chapter 11 Ten Steps to Staying Emotionally Healthy While You Have to Be Apartp. 77
Chapter 12 Secrets to Long-Distance Intimacyp. 87
Chapter 13 How Often to Visit, Call, and Writep. 93
Chapter 14 Making the Most of Your Telephone Timep. 99
Chapter 15 Your Secret Weapon: Sending Lettersp. 113
Chapter 16 Long-Distance Loving: Sex While Separatedp. 119
Chapter 17 Hello/Goodbye: Parting and Reunitingp. 127
Chapter 18 Dealing with Conflict at a Distancep. 135
Chapter 19 Sexual Affairs: While the Cat's Away the Mice Will Play?p. 151
Chapter 20 Gender Differences in Separationp. 157
Chapter 21 Ending the Separation: When You Finally Move Togetherp. 165
Chapter 22 Resources for Your LDR: An Annotated Bibliographyp. 173
Epiloguep. 185
Top 10 Strategies for a Strong and Healthy Long-Distance Relationshipp. 187
Separation Inventory: Part I: Answer Sheetp. 189
Scoring Sheetp. 191
Separation Inventory: Part II: Answer Sheetp. 195
Scoring Circlep. 197
About the Authorp. 199
Bibliographyp. 201
Indexp. 211