Introduction / Cathi Hanauer -- Getting the milk for free / Veronica Chambers -- Crossing to safety / Jen Marshall -- Moving in, moving out, moving on / Sarah Miller -- Papa don't preach / Kerry Herlihy -- I do, not: why I won't marry / Catherine Newman -- Killing the Puritan within / Kate Christensen -- My mother's ring: caught between two families / Helen Schulman -- Attila the honey I'm home / Kristin van Ogtrop -- The myth of co-parenting: how it was supposed to be, how it was / Hope Edelman -- Daddy dearest: what happens when he does more than his half? / Laurie Abraham -- Crossing the line in the sand: how mad can mother get? / Elissa Schappell -- Married at 46: the agony and the ecstasy / Nancy Wartik -- The fat lady sings / Natalie Kusz -- What independence has come to mean to me: the pain of solitude, the pleasure of self-knowledge / Vivian Gornick.