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Mother shock : loving every (other) minute of it
Buchanan, Andrea J.
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New York, NY : Seal Press, [2003]

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xx, 234 pages ; 20 cm
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"Tales from the first year and beyond"--Cover.
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HQ759 .B763 2003 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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According to Andrea Buchanan, Mother shock" is the state in which many new parents exist during those first confusing, chaotic and often comical years of parenting. It is the clash between expectation and result, theory and reality. It is the twilight zone of 24-hour-a-day living; where life is no longer neatly divided into day and night; the triple-impact of hormonal imbalance, sleep deprivation, and physical exhaustion. It is the stress of trying to acclimate quickly to the immediacy of mothering; a new conception of oneself, one's role in the family and in the world; a fearful new level of responsibility, and a new delegation of domestic duties.In this much-needed and delightfully funny collection of essays, Buchanan shares the insight she gains as she moves through the stages of mother shock. From "Fear of the Double Stroller" and "Confessions of a Bottle Feeder" to "I'm an Idiot" and "Everything I Needed to Know I Learned in Playgroup," Buchanan details the unimaginably difficult and unbelievably rewarding process of becoming a mother. "

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Library Journal Review

The creator of, Buchanan has a convincing theory about the first year of motherhood: all new moms go through four phases of adjustment-mother love (initial euphoria), mother shock (crisis), mother tongue (recovery), and mother land (adjustment). In interrelated essays that vary in length as well as in style and format, she explores those phases and attempts to answer a plethora of questions that finally come down to the realization that it's impossible to know what it's like to become a mother until you actually do. But enough theory. Although this book may sound like a scholarly analysis, it is not. Buchanan writes fluently and with both feet on the ground, always aspiring to show readers her way of mothering not as a model but as an example. Her commonsense, nonjudgmental approach is especially praiseworthy. In the end, as she repeatedly points out, it is not choosing breast milk over formula that makes one a good mother, it is the ability to accept that every new mother can only do the best that she can. For all public libraries.-Mirela Roncevic (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Introductionp. ix
I Mother Love
Birth of a Motherp. 3
Birth of a Mother: Part 2p. 12
Misconceptionsp. 24
Mother Lovep. 32
Pretty on the Insidep. 41
Separation Anxietyp. 46
II Mother Shock
Giving Birth to Ambivalencep. 53
Loving Every (Other) Minute of Itp. 60
The Invisible Womanp. 66
Mother Shockp. 72
Motherly Advicep. 81
Fear of the Double Strollerp. 87
Letters to Emip. 93
III Mother Tongue
Wednesdays in the Parkp. 105
Confessions of a Bottle Feederp. 112
A Fine Messp. 118
Sleeping Like a Babyp. 123
I'm an Idiotp. 131
What's in a Name?p. 136
Mother Tonguep. 143
Everything I Really Needed to Know I Learned at Playgroupp. 151
Learning to Speakp. 162
IV Mother Land
Not Like Mozartp. 171
Fall Backp. 176
Forgettingp. 180
Changed World: Mothering After September 11p. 186
The Concertp. 191
Zen Mom, Beginner Momp. 196
Piano Lessonsp. 205
Mother Landp. 217
After Shockp. 222
Notes and Creditsp. 229
Acknowledgmentsp. 233