The existential question : why is this happening to me? -- The hardest question : to leave or not to leave--how do I decide? -- The guilt question : is divorce kosher? -- The psychological question : what do I do with all this anger? -- The most painful question : how do we tell the kids? -- The ritual question : how do I get to closure? -- The awkward question : what do you say? -- The legal question : to litigate or to mediate? -- The most important question : how do we continue to raise children together?.