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Title:
The complete idiot's guide to interfaith relationships
Author:
Rozakis, Laurie.
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Publication Information:
Indianapolis, IN : Alpha Books, [2001]

©2001
Physical Description:
xxiv, 311 pages : illustrations ; 24 cm
Language:
English
Contents:
Mixed matches -- Defender of the faith -- Faith, hope, and charity : interfaith dating -- Celebrating our differences : interfaith weddings -- And baby makes -- Untying the knot.
ISBN:
9780028639819
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Book

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Covers interfaith relationships discussing such topics as wedding customs of different faiths, religious holidays of various faiths, and raising children in an interfaith family.


Author Notes

Laurie Rozakis, Ph.D., has written a dozen Complete Idiot's Guides®. An associate professor of English and Humanities at the State University of New York at Farmingdale, Dr. Rozakis has been married to a wonderful man (of a different faith) for more than 25 years.


Table of Contents

Part 1 Mixed Matchesp. 1
1 Keeping the Faithp. 3
Forbidden Fruitp. 4
Top Ten Common Experiences in Interfaith Relationshipsp. 6
A Member of the Tribep. 7
What I Did for Lovep. 8
Good and Good for You?p. 8
Religion--Opiate or Antibiotic?p. 9
Who We Are, What We Believep. 10
2 Strangers to the Tribep. 13
Eyes Wide Shutp. 14
Strangers in the Nightp. 15
What, Me Worry?p. 16
Gimme that Old Time Religionp. 18
Emergency Rxp. 19
Give Peace a Chancep. 21
3 Present Your ID, Pleasep. 23
The Name Gamep. 24
Who Are You?p. 25
Role Playingp. 25
Poetry, the International Languagep. 26
Write This Way: Journalingp. 28
Words to Live Byp. 28
Voyage of Self-Discoveryp. 28
Value Packedp. 30
The Main Eventp. 32
Part 2 Defender of the Faithp. 35
4 Judaismp. 37
Origins of Judaismp. 38
What Do Jews Believe?p. 39
Types of Judaismp. 40
Reform Judaismp. 40
Conservative Judaismp. 40
Orthodox Judaismp. 41
Reconstructionist Judaismp. 42
Who Is a Jew?p. 42
Not So Fastp. 42
Ashkenazic and Sephardic Jewsp. 43
Conversionp. 43
House of Worshipp. 44
Ritual Items in the Synagoguep. 45
Attending Servicesp. 45
Five Symbols of Jewish Faithp. 46
Three Major Jewish Holidaysp. 46
Yom Kippurp. 46
Rosh Hashanahp. 47
Passoverp. 47
Jews and Interfaith Relationshipsp. 47
5 Christianityp. 49
Origins of Christianityp. 50
The Gospelsp. 51
Christianity Spreadsp. 51
What Do Christians Believe?p. 51
Types of Christianityp. 52
Adventistsp. 53
Baptistsp. 54
Catholicsp. 54
Church of Christp. 56
Episcopaliansp. 57
Fundamentalist Christiansp. 57
Jehovah's Witnessesp. 58
Latter Day Saints (Mormons)p. 59
Lutheransp. 60
Methodistsp. 60
Orthodox Christianityp. 61
Pentecostalp. 61
Presbyterianp. 61
United Church of Christp. 62
Two Major Christian Holidaysp. 63
Christmasp. 63
Easterp. 63
6 Islamp. 65
Origins of Islamp. 66
The Prophet Muhammadp. 66
Islam Spreadsp. 67
Who Is a Muslim?p. 67
What Do Muslims Believe?p. 67
The Holy Booksp. 68
Further Guidelinesp. 68
The Five Pillarsp. 69
Profession of Faithp. 69
The Five Daily Prayersp. 69
Charity to the Poorp. 70
Fasting During the Holy Month of Ramadanp. 70
A Pilgrimage to Meccap. 70
House of Worshipp. 71
Muslims and Interfaith Relationshipsp. 71
7 Hinduismp. 75
Origins of Hinduismp. 76
What Do Hindus Believe?p. 76
Cult of the Godsp. 77
Different, Yet Alikep. 77
The Caste Systemp. 77
The Holy Booksp. 78
How Hindus Worshipp. 79
Hindus and Intermarriagep. 79
Tradition Tempered with Reasonp. 80
Words to the Wisep. 81
8 Other Organized Religionsp. 83
The Baha'i Faithp. 84
Buddhism Beginsp. 85
Buddhism Spreadsp. 85
Buddhist Scripturep. 86
What Buddhists Believep. 86
Main Sectsp. 86
Buddhist Worshipp. 87
Buddhists and Intermarriagep. 87
The Druze Faithp. 88
The Mennonitesp. 88
Amish Beliefsp. 88
The Issue of Intermarriagep. 89
Sikhismp. 89
Worshipp. 90
Sikhs and Intermarriagep. 90
Unitarianismp. 90
Part 3 Faith, Hope, and Charity: Interfaith Datingp. 93
9 The Dating Gamep. 95
Saturday Night Feverp. 96
Hey, Look Me Overp. 97
Face Offp. 98
Dress for successp. 98
Think carefully about wearing religious symbolsp. 99
Avoid charged situationsp. 99
Keep it intimatep. 100
Just Dessertsp. 100
In tense situations, consider meeting on neutral groundp. 100
Remember your mannersp. 101
If you're coming for a visit, bring a hostess giftp. 101
Treat the sibs wellp. 101
Avoid controversial topicsp. 101
Don't rise to the baitp. 101
Above all, be yourselfp. 102
Body Talkp. 102
Two Outs, Bottom of the Ninthp. 104
Truth or Darep. 105
Damage Controlp. 106
10 I'll Be There for You: Dealing with Friends, Colleagues, and Strangersp. 109
Reality Bitesp. 110
Reality Checkp. 110
Shaken, not Stirredp. 111
Twelve Steps to Being an Unsupportive Friendp. 111
Twelve Steps to Being a Helpful Friendp. 113
Turnabout Is Fair Playp. 114
Strange Encounterp. 116
Dream Loverp. 116
Shooting Yourself in the Footp. 116
Hidden in Plain Sightp. 117
11 Making It Workp. 119
Allies, Not Adversariesp. 120
Through the Looking Glassp. 121
Look Before You Leapp. 122
Time Is On Your Sidep. 123
Identity Crisisp. 123
Pressure Playsp. 125
The Parent Trapp. 125
The Couple That Plays Together, Stays Togetherp. 126
Danger, Will Robinsonp. 126
Who Ya Gonna Call?p. 127
Part 4 Celebrating Our Differences: Interfaith Weddingsp. 129
12 Tempest in a Tabernacle: The Weddingp. 131
Wedding Bell Bluesp. 132
When You Wish Upon a Starp. 133
Past Tensep. 133
My Way or the Highwayp. 134
Ring Dingp. 135
Whose Wedding Is It, Anyway?p. 136
Money Businessp. 136
Hey, Big Spenderp. 137
Culture Clashp. 137
Sometimes Dreams Do Come Truep. 138
Bridge Across Troubled Watersp. 140
13 A Jewish Wedding Ceremonyp. 141
Yours, Mine, or Ours?p. 142
The Best of Both Worldsp. 142
Mazel Tov!p. 144
The Basicsp. 144
The Ceremonyp. 145
The Rabbip. 147
L'Chayim!p. 148
14 Christian Wedding Ceremoniesp. 149
The Catholic Weddingp. 149
Before the Big Dayp. 150
The Basicsp. 151
The Ceremonyp. 152
A Greek Orthodox Weddingp. 154
A Protestant Weddingp. 155
Follow the Rulesp. 155
Tailored to Fitp. 156
The Prophetp. 157
God Bless You!p. 158
15 Going to the Church/Temple/Chapel Building and We're Gonna Get Marriedp. 161
Chinese Wedding Ceremoniesp. 162
Hindu Wedding Ceremoniesp. 162
Japanese Wedding Ceremoniesp. 163
Mormon Wedding Ceremoniesp. 164
Mormon Temple Ceremonyp. 165
Mormon Chapel Ceremonyp. 165
Muslim Wedding Ceremoniesp. 165
Unitarian Wedding Ceremoniesp. 166
Ecumenical Wedding Ceremoniesp. 167
Chief Considerationsp. 167
Over the Edgep. 168
16 Design Your Own Wedding Vowsp. 171
Religion-Free Zonep. 172
Light of My Lifep. 172
Wings and Rootsp. 173
My Love Grows Dailyp. 173
Religious, but Personalp. 174
My One True Lovep. 174
Walk with Godp. 174
Heaven Sentp. 175
God's Blessingp. 175
Speaker for the Housep. 176
The Spirit of the Native Americansp. 177
Rock of Agesp. 178
The Couple's Prayerp. 178
Smooth Sailing on the Sea of Married Lifep. 179
Readingsp. 180
Religious Passagesp. 180
Literary Passagesp. 182
The Art of Marriagep. 182
Write This Wayp. 183
17 All in the Family--But Whose? The Issue of Conversionp. 187
"Whither Thou Goest, I Will Go"p. 188
I've Looked at Life from Both Sides Nowp. 189
Walk This Wayp. 189
Converting to Christianityp. 190
Converting to Judaismp. 191
Look Before You Leapp. 192
Trouble in Paradisep. 193
One Size Doesn't Fit Allp. 193
18 Rites and Rightsp. 195
One Potato, Two Potatoesp. 196
The Three C'sp. 197
Play Nice, Kidsp. 197
Marriage Isp. 199
Basic Trainingp. 200
Work with Your Spousep. 201
Set Prioritiesp. 201
Enforce the Prioritiesp. 201
Communicate Directlyp. 202
Know Yourselfp. 202
Get with the Programp. 203
Learn to Cool Offp. 203
Be Maturep. 204
Be Kindp. 204
Keep Your Sense of Humorp. 204
Food Fightp. 204
Four-Star Momp. 205
Hostess with the Mostessp. 206
In Case of Emergencyp. 207
Part 5 And Baby Makesp. 209
19 Sexpectationsp. 211
The Naughty Bitsp. 212
Not with My Baby Girl You Don't!p. 213
Makin' Whoopeep. 214
Getting Jiggy with Itp. 214
Christian Views on Sex in Marriagep. 215
Jewish Views on Sex in Marriagep. 217
Muslim Views on Sex in Marriagep. 217
Can We Talk?p. 217
Patience Is a Virtuep. 218
Be Fruitful and Multiplyp. 219
Loose Lips Sink Ships--and Marriagesp. 219
Kissy Facep. 220
20 Baby Talkp. 221
Off on the Wrong Footp. 222
United We Stand, Divided We Fallp. 223
Trouble in River Cityp. 224
We Can Work It Outp. 225
What's in a Name?p. 226
I'm Just Wild About Harryp. 227
Where the Girls Arep. 228
Welcome, Stranger!p. 229
Baptismp. 229
Circumcisionp. 229
21 Home for the Holidays--But Which Holidays?p. 231
The December Dilemmap. 232
Rock Around the Clockp. 233
The Party Never Endsp. 233
More, More, More!p. 234
Tiffs Over Turfp. 234
Sharpen Your Skillsp. 235
Listen Upp. 236
Party Heartyp. 238
Have Your Cake and Eat It, Too?p. 239
All or Nothing?p. 239
The Matzo Bunnyp. 240
Back to the Futurep. 241
We Can Work It Outp. 241
For the Families of Interfaith Couplesp. 242
For the Interfaith Couples Themselvesp. 243
22 Baby's Religious Educationp. 245
Play and Prayp. 246
Bugs and Hugsp. 246
A Fly in the Ointmentp. 247
Put Your Mouth Where Your Money Isp. 248
Select the Right Approach for Your Child and Family Beliefsp. 248
If Possible, Volunteerp. 248
Make Religious Rituals a Part of Your Family Lifep. 249
Keep It Age Appropriatep. 249
Practice What You Preachp. 249
Religious Coming-of-Age Ceremoniesp. 250
Bar and Bat Mitzvahp. 251
Next Year in Jerusalemp. 252
Recipe for Successp. 253
First Communionp. 253
Christian Confirmationp. 254
Planning Pays Offp. 254
Not So Fast!p. 255
A Pot of Gold at the End of the Rainbowp. 256
Part 6 Untying the Knotp. 259
23 Dealing with Divorcep. 261
In Love and Warp. 262
Catholic Attitudes Toward Divorcep. 263
Protestant Attitudes Toward Divorcep. 264
Jewish Attitudes Toward Divorcep. 264
Round Up the Usual Suspectsp. 265
Pressure Pointsp. 266
Destruction at Ground Zerop. 267
Circle the Wagonsp. 267
Last Licksp. 268
24 Christian, Jew, and Heaven Too?p. 271
The Final Frontierp. 272
The Christian Death Ritualsp. 273
As Death Approachesp. 273
After Deathp. 273
The Jewish Death Ritualsp. 275
As Death Approachesp. 276
After Deathp. 276
Holding the Bagp. 279
Appendixes
A Glossaryp. 283
B Resources on Interfaith Relationshipsp. 293
Indexp. 301