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The toaster broke, so we're getting married
Holm, Pamela.
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San Francisco, CA : MacAdam/Cage Publishing, [2002]

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175 pages ; 21 cm
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HQ734.H777 A3 2002 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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Booklist Review

The title is a joke, but Holm's husband did use a smoking toaster to test the waters on the marriage issue by not-so-subtly mentioning that "sometimes people get toasters as wedding gifts." After later making it official, the couple begins planning the wedding; Holm decided that the only way to plan and still have time to write was to write about wedding planning, and the result is this memoir. With a dry wit and some insightful comments on the meaning of marriage (and how little that has to do with "the wedding"), the book chronicles Holm's transformation from hipster/starving artist/single mother to a superconsumer of all things wedding-related. There is humor in Holm's account of being surprised at how much she cares about frilly, tulle-wrapped bubbles, but there is the more somber recognition of how strongly our culture imbues us with such needs from an early age. Recent brides or brides-to-be will probably feel like Holm has been reading their diaries, but the funny, anecdotal story of one woman's preparation for marriage will appeal to more than just the recently engaged or wed. --Beth Leistensnider

Publisher's Weekly Review

This addition to the crowded memoir shelves offers an entertaining but unsurprising look behind the scenes as Holm plans her San Francisco wedding. Her second trip to the altar 16 years after her first "short, sweet blur" of a wedding is complicated by the presence of her 15-year-old daughter and the usual family issues that arise when wedding bells ring, but otherwise, the territory is familiar. Chapters titled "The Dress" ("I've been seduced with frightening ease into the white wedding I didn't think I wanted") and "The Registry" ("I can't help it, it just feels creepy and greedy") cover with wit but little novelty the various hurdles every bride faces. Holm's reflections on a woman's transformation from autonomous individual to blushing bride are dead on, as when she realizes, "it's so much easier to think about whether or not to use rhinestone zippers for the bridesmaids' dresses and whether to serve sea bass or sole than it is to contemplate the leap of faith we are about to take, and the depth of the fall should we miss our mark." The author is at her best depicting the strong, healthy relationship with her kindhearted fianc, which will assure readers that Holm has as good a chance as anyone can to make a marriage work, long after the wedding hoopla is over. Her charming style will amuse those who are immersed in the wedding planning process. (Aug. 26) Forecast: Holm's book will serve as a comforting companion for brides-to-be, especially those planning nontraditional weddings. (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved