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Gossip : ten pathways to eliminate it from your life and transform your soul
Palatnik, Lori.
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Deerfield Beach, Fla. : Simcha Press, [2002]

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xx, 151 pages ; 19 cm
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BJ1535.G6 P35 2002 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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Evil speech can destroy friendships, break up marriages and ruin businesses. Gossip-negative talk, put-downs, rumors, accusations-not only hurts the person being talked about, it also hurts the person speaking and the person listening. In short, gossip has a negative impact on everyone . Yet, despite these negative consequences, gossip has been around since the beginning of humankind and continues to be a popular but destructive pastime.

Throughout this timely and enjoyable book, readers will learn what the Bible and Jewish wisdom have to say regarding speech and how their teachings relate to our world today. Readers will also learn via real-life examples how to break the gossip habit and how to teach others to do the same. Gossip will help people develop skills to improve their lives by getting along better with others; mending old hurts and reclaiming lost relationship; keeping good relationships from going bad through hurtful words; and strengthening relationships they already have by speaking in a more encouraging and productive manner.

The purpose of this book is to extinguish the fire of evil speech and help us live in a gossip-free environment. The result? Positive interactions with the people around us, the healing of relationships and a more complete self.

Author Notes

Lori Palatnik is an author and Jewish educator. She has been a guest on numerous radio and television talk shows, and hosted a Toronto television show called The Jewish Journal. She lectures on the beauty and depth of Judaism throughout the United States and Israel, and has written articles on Jewish topics for The Jerusalem Report, Toronto Star and many other publications
Bob Burg is an internationally known speaker and author. A frequent media guest, Bob's articles have been published in hundreds of professional and trade magazines

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Publisher's Weekly Review

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said that speech is power, a concept explored in Lori Palatnik and Bob Burg' s insightful little book Gossip: Ten Pathways to Eliminate It from Your Life and Transform Your Soul. The authors discuss the role of lashon hora (evil speech) in the Bible and in Jewish tradition, exploring the immediate and even the eternal consequences of negative gossip. The book is accessible and well-designed, with powerful pull-out quotes from sources as diverse as Maimonides and Henry Ward Beecher, all illustrating the destructive power of evil words. (Aug.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved



Chapter Two - Body and Soul We must no more ask whether the soul and body are one than ask whether the wax and the figure impressed on it are one.Aristotle, De Anima Mastering the gift of speech serves no purpose unless you realize that you are not just a body, but also a soul. If you believe you are simply a body, put down this book and do whatever you want, as long as you don't get caught. You can live the bumper sticker "Whoever dies with the most toys, wins." Living life only as a body infers there is no ultimate justice, no Higher Authority and no rules, except those imposed by humans. If you know you have a soul given to you by a Creator, then living life is another matter entirely. It means that what you do really does matter, even if no one knows about it. It means there is ultimate justice. It means that the choices we make in this world make a difference, not just for here and now, but for eternity. You do have a soul, and it is the essence of who you are. You are probably nodding in agreement, as I think almost everyone would. If I stood outside your local mall asking everyone who passed "Are you a body, or are you a body and a soul?" I think almost 100 percent would answer "I am a body and a soul." Yes, we say it, but how many of us live it? How many of us wake up every day realizing that God has given us the gift of another day, that once again our soul has been restored? I am married to a rabbi. But I don't wake up every day saying "I'm a soul, I'm a soul!" No, I wake up bleary-eyed (hey, I've got five kids!), stagger to the bathroom, dress, wake my children, eat, drink, do a carpool, finish a chapter for my publisher, shop, eat again, drink again, go to the bathroom, do more carpools, feel hot, feel cold, feel tired. Hey, it's a very physical, body-oriented world. Even when married to a rabbi, you can forget that you are a soul. Yet God has a way of reminding us. We all have had experiences when we know we are not just bodies but are souls. These are soul-awakening moments. Take a moment now and reflect. Think of a time in your life where you had a soul-awakening experience. Perhaps it was the birth of a baby-a very physical experience, but certainly one that is soul-filled. A woman is a mini-creator, bringing forth life. At birth, a miracle is happening, and a new soul comes into this world. It's magic. Have you ever gone into the countryside and looked into a night sky free from smog or city lights? You see thousands of stars, points of light that go on forever. You lift up your hand and you can almost touch eternity. Ever have a near-death experience? Whoa-there's a wake-up call! I knew a man who accidentally fell from a third-story balcony. He lived to tell the tale, and his life was forever changed. Every year on the anniversary of the fall, he has a celebration and publicly gives thanks "for the best day of my life." He says that until that day he was living completely as a body, on the fast track of life Excerpted from Gossip: Ten Pathways to Eliminate It from Your Life and Transform Your Soul by Lori Palatnik All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsp. xi
Forewordp. xv
Prefacep. xix
1. Feathers in the Windp. 1
2. Body and Soulp. 5
3. The Power of Speech: A Gift Like No Otherp. 13
4. Consequences, Eternity and Other Scary Stuffp. 17
5. Why Do We Gossip?p. 21
6. The First Pathway: Speak No Evil--And Avoid Destroying Those Around Youp. 25
7. The Second Pathway: Hear No Evil--And Avoid Destroying Yourselfp. 39
8. The Third Pathway: Don't Rationalize Your Life Awayp. 51
9. The Fourth Pathway: See No Evil--How Judging People Favorably Will Change Your Lifep. 63
10. The Fifth Pathway: Beware of Speaking Evil Without Saying an Evil Wordp. 75
11. The Sixth Pathway: Modesty Is the Best Policy--Avoid Envy and Arrogancep. 81
12. The Seventh Pathway: Beware of Repeating Information--Or, Loose Lips Sink Shipsp. 91
13. The Eighth Pathway: Honesty Really Is the Best Policy--Most of the Timep. 97
14. The Ninth Pathway: Learn to Say "I'm Sorry"--Or, "Okay, So I Blew It. Now What?"p. 107
15. The Tenth Pathway: Forgivep. 119
16. The Reverse Gossip Gamep. 125
17. When You Are Allowed to Speak About Othersp. 129
18. The Best Story Everp. 137
Afterword: Actions Speak Louder than Desiresp. 141
Appendix The Ten Pathways of Positive Speechp. 145
Notesp. 147
Further Readingp. 149