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Attitudes of gratitude in love : creating more joy in your relationship
Ryan, M. J. (Mary Jane), 1952-
Publication Information:
Berkeley, Calif. : Conari Press, [2002]

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xiii, 199 pages ; 16 cm
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BF575.L8 R93 2002 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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"We can have happier and more joy-filled relationships if we focus on what's right about them rather than what's wrong," writes M. J. Ryan in Attitudes of Gratitude in Love , the follow-up to her bestselling Attitudes of Gratitude. In her characteristically down-to-earth style, Ryan helps readers use the practice of gratitude to get back in touch with why they fell in love in the first place and deepen the love between partners, no matter how long they've been together. The book is divided into two sections -- the attitudes of gratitude that bring our personal lives more joy, peace, and love, and the simple behaviors we can begin to practice to change any relationship for the better, right this moment.

M.J. Ryan is a writer, a seeker, and a giver of gratitude. She is the author of several other bestselling books including This Year I Will, The Happiness Makeover: How to Teach Yourself to Be Happy and Enjoy Every Day, Trusting Yourself: How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed and Live More Happily with Less Effort, A Grateful Heart: Daily Blessings for the Evening Meal from Buddha to the Beatles, Attitudes of Gratitude in Love, The Power of Patience: How to Slow the Rush and Enjoy More Happiness, Success, and Peace of Mind Every Day. She has appeared on The Today Show, CNN, and many radio programs. She is a contributing editor to Good Housekeeping. Ryan also serves as a thinking partner to executives and entrepreneurs. She lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her family.

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Publisher's Weekly Review

Conari Press cofounder M.J. Ryan admits that while it's easy to be grateful for sun, rain and good food, it's much harder to practice gratitude in intimate relationships. But adding gratefulness to a relationship can help remind people why they fell in love in the first place, fuel happiness and even deepen love. In Attitudes of Gratitude in Love: Creating More Joy in Your Relationship, Ryan (Attitudes of Gratitude) presents a multitude of brief essays on not taking love for granted, ditching feelings of resentment, the benefits of relationship gratitude and giving in order to receive. The book's boxy shape and colorful cover make it an appropriate gift. (Aug.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Library Journal Review

Cofounder of Conari Press and coeditor of the "Random Acts of Kindness" series, Ryan returns with another little feel-good book. Radiating enough cheer to perk up Archie Bunker, this successor to the best-selling Attitudes of Gratitude spins positive angles on being grateful for the hard work that characterizes long-term relationships (e.g., "The more you're thankful, the more you'll receive"). Each section is simple if generic and features an epigraph purer than the text. Aimed primarily at married couples, it basically screams "gift book"; if similar material (e.g., Amy Dean's Night Light) spikes circulation at your public library, fine. Chicken Soup for the Soul? It's more like popcorn. Purchase as needed. (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Table of Contents

Daphne Rose Kingma
Forewordp. xi
1 The Key to Living Our Lovep. 1
2 The Gifts of Relationship Gratitudep. 11
You'll Feel Closer and More Lovingp. 13
You're More Likely to Stay Togetherp. 17
It's Positively Contagiousp. 21
You'll Both Be Healthierp. 25
Conflicts Are Resolved More Easilyp. 29
Resentment Melts Awayp. 33
The More You're Thankful, the More You Receivep. 35
You'll Touch Love's Mystery and Majestyp. 39
3 Myths That Hold Us Backp. 41
I Need to Protect Myselfp. 43
Relationships Are Hardp. 47
It's Dangerous to Be Too Happyp. 51
It's Better to Be Right Than Closep. 55
You Should Be Just Like Mep. 59
If I Feel It, It's Truep. 63
Feelings Come before Behaviorsp. 67
It Has to Be a Certain Wayp. 69
4 Love's Attitudes of Gratitudep. 73
You Can Choose What to Pay Attention Top. 75
It's Right to Notice What's Rightp. 79
Receptivity Is Keyp. 83
It's Not about Being a Doormatp. 87
Assume the Bestp. 91
You're Not Perfect Eitherp. 95
The Other Person's Quirks Are Delightfulp. 97
Love Is Truly a Giftp. 101
You Are a Great Gift Toop. 103
Awareness without Judgment Creates Changep. 107
Love Is the Cauldron in Which Our Souls Are Temperedp. 111
It's All about Learningp. 115
We're Here to Bring More Love into the Worldp. 119
5 The Practice of Gratitude in Lovep. 121
Just Beginp. 125
Be Explicitp. 127
Practice Truly Seeingp. 129
Make a Gratitude Laundry Listp. 131
Do It on Your Ownp. 133
Celebrate Your "Usness"p. 137
Give Thanks for What's Not Difficult between Youp. 141
Give What You Most Want to Getp. 145
Remember Your Mannersp. 149
Share What Makes You Feel Appreciatedp. 153
Receive What's Being Givenp. 155
Do the 5 to 1p. 159
Give Thanks for Being Loved with All Your Foiblesp. 161
Recall Your Love Storyp. 165
Don't Forget the Bad Old Daysp. 169
Notice Repair Attemptsp. 173
Appreciate Love's Obligationsp. 177
Take a Daily Gratitude Vowp. 179
Express Your Appreciation to Othersp. 183
Ask a Friend for Helpp. 185
When Times Get Tough, Go to the Higher Levelp. 189
6 The Joyful Journeyp. 193
My Thanksp. 197
About the Authorp. 199