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And thou shalt honor : the caregiver's companion
McLeod, Beth Witrogen, 1948-
Publication Information:
Emmaus, Pa. : Rodale, 2002.
Physical Description:
xvii, 445 pages : illustrations ; 24 cm
General Note:
Includes index.
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RA645.3 .A53 2002 Adult Non-Fiction Open Shelf

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In the groundbreaking PBS special And Thou Shalt Hono r, producers Harry Wiland and Dale Bell bring to light the challenges facing today's caregivers. This companion volume picks up where the show leaves off, providing the kind of information and practical support essential for anyone in a caregiving situation.

More than 54 million American families are involved in the care of loved ones who are elderly or ill. And millions more will be affected in the years to come. If you're a caregiver, or you expect to become one, And Thou Shalt Honor: The Caregiver's Companion offers help and hope.

Page after page of useful advice draws on the expertise of the nation's top caregiving researchers and advocates, as well as the real-world wisdom of caregivers just like you. You'll find insights and answers on all aspects of providing care, including:

- Reaching out to a loved one in need of help
- Managing day-to-day caregiving tasks
- Accessing public and private caregiving resources
- Navigating the legal and financial maze
- Assembling a caregiving support network
- Understanding the changing family dynamic
- Surviving and thriving in the caregiver role

Complete with action plans and checklists for key caregiving issues, plus a comprehensive directory of essential caregiving resources, And Thou Shalt Honor: The Caregiver's Companion reaches out to all caregivers--and to those they love. Make it your companion for the caregiving journey.

Author Notes

Beth Witrogen McLeod is a consultant, lecturer, journalist, and author. She also wrote and produced an award-winning series called The Caregivers for the San Francisco Examiner. Her articles on eldercare and on spirituality and health have appeared in a variety of publications, including Good Housekeeping, Self, Family Circle, and Health, as well as on Web sites such as and A graduate of the University of Wisconsin and the University of California, Berkeley, she currently resides in the San Francisco Bay area

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Publisher's Weekly Review

It's no news that as American life expectancy increases, the fate of our elderly is in our hands. In her latest volume, editor McLeod, who was nominated for a Pulitzer for her Caregiving: The Spiritual Journey of Love, Loss and Renewal, makes a strong case that caregiving also resides in our souls. The encyclopedic companion to the PBS special And Thou Shalt Honor reinforces Mcleod's positive theme: "Caregiving truly is a spiritual practice, a nonlinear path with heart"; "Caregiving has heart and meaning because it changes us for the better"; and "caring for a loved one ennobles every life it touches." Throughout this comprehensive and compassionate but unsentimental resource book, actual caregivers tell their stories, acknowledging their vast range of experiences and emotional reactions alongside a gamut of action plans, checklists, as well as medical and support networking information. More than 54 million Americans are caring for loved ones; they need look no further than McCleod's manual for openhearted encouragement and a plethora of practical information. (Sept.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved

Table of Contents

Forewordp. xi
Prefacep. xiii
Introductionp. xv
Part 1 Caregiving: A Rite of Passage
Chapter 1 Continuing the Traditionp. 3
Chapter 2 Profiles in Caringp. 16
Part 2 When a Loved One Needs Care
Chapter 3 "Should I Intervene?"p. 27
Chapter 4 Building Bridgesp. 39
Chapter 5 The Conflict of Caringp. 48
Chapter 6 In Sickness and in Healthp. 58
Chapter 7 A Family in Transitionp. 67
Part 3 Preparing to Care
Chapter 8 Your Caregiving Support Networkp. 77
Chapter 9 No Place Like Homep. 92
Chapter 10 Taking Stockp. 102
Chapter 11 Relationships Redefinedp. 115
Part 4 Giving Care
Chapter 12 Easing the Transitionp. 127
Chapter 13 Good Health Mattersp. 141
Chapter 14 Managing Illnessp. 157
Chapter 15 When Drugs Don't Mixp. 189
Chapter 16 Adaptations for Daily Livingp. 199
Chapter 17 Caring for the Bedriddenp. 211
Chapter 18 The Family that Plays Togetherp. 221
Part 5 Reaching Out for Help
Chapter 19 Community-Based Caregivingp. 231
Chapter 20 Helping Hands for the Caregiverp. 246
Chapter 21 Housing Options Beyond Home Carep. 260
Part 6 Securing the Future
Chapter 22 When to Call in the Prosp. 283
Chapter 23 Managing Financesp. 291
Chapter 24 Wading Through the Benefits Mazep. 306
Chapter 25 Legal Aspects of Caregivingp. 326
Part 7 Caring for the Caregiver
Chapter 26 Feeling Bad about Feeling Badp. 347
Chapter 27 "What about Me?"p. 356
Chapter 28 Protecting Your Private Timep. 365
Chapter 29 Caring for Yourselfp. 372
Chapter 30 Working 9 to 5, Caring 'Round the Clockp. 389
Chapter 31 Preparing for your Futurep. 399
Part 8 Resources
And Thou Shalt Honor Companion Web Sitep. 413
Other Web Sitesp. 414
Booksp. 416
Organizationsp. 417
Indexp. 427