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Title:
A man's recovery from traumatic childhood abuse : the insiders
Author:
Knight, Robert Blackburn.
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Publication Information:
New York : Haworth Maltreatment and Trauma Press, 2002.
Physical Description:
xv, 301 pages ; 21 cm
Language:
English
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ISBN:
9780789010643

9780789010650
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Book

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Break the silence about male victims of incest and sexual abuse!

The pseudonymous author of A Man's Recovery from Traumatic Childhood Abuse: The Insiders had everything a man could want: intelligence, physical strength, financial security, close friends, a loving girlfriend, a home in the most beautiful part of California. But he also had mysterious physical pains, a bisexual father who had been beaten to death in an unsolved murder, a mother who was always ailing, a brother who had been killed in a car accident on the way to his eighteenth birthday party. And a sense that all these facts were somehow connected, that there was a secret story that would link everything together.

He also had the Insiders. These subpersonalities knew the story. They kept the secrets and held the pain. As he went through therapy, they emerged, told their stories, and helped him face the brutal, ongoing sexual abuse by his parents that had made his childhood a nightmare of terror, shame, and pain.

Few male survivors of sexual abuse have spoken out to tell their stories. A Man's Recovery from Traumatic Childhood Abuse breaks the silence. Because the author is a trained therapist as well as a survivor, he weaves psychological theory with the biographical material. This unique dual view allows emotional and intellectual comprehension to develop in parallel.

A Man's Recovery from Traumatic Childhood Abuse also discusses essential concepts in understanding abuse survivors, including: inflating versus deflating abuse the emotional triangle of fear, sadness, and anger post-traumatic decline attachment disorders repressed, recovered, narrative, and procedural memory somatization dissociation, ego states, and subpersonalities This passionately honest book is a unique resource for therapists, abuse survivors, and the people who love them. You will never forget A Man's Recovery from Traumatic Childhood Abuse or the brave man who dared to tell the truth about sadistic sexual abuse.


Table of Contents

Michael Jarvis, PhD
Forewordp. xi
Prefacep. xiii
Chapter 1. Robert: A Proposition from My Inner Child June-October 1987p. 1
My Experiences with Hypnotherapyp. 2
I Awaken the First Monsterp. 6
More Family Skeletonsp. 10
Splits, Ego States, and Multiple Personalitiesp. 13
Chapter 2. Young One, Honey, Dream Woman, and Bear: Memories Are Made of This November 1987-February 1988p. 19
Struggling to Believe the Memoriesp. 22
Young One: A Second Child Within and a Second Monsterp. 24
Block That Fantasy!--Or Not?p. 27
The Insidersp. 29
More Splittingp. 32
Chapter 3. Child Abuse and Its Discontents March-May 1988p. 35
The Rewards and Frustrations of Amnesiap. 37
Coping with Wine and Weedp. 40
"The Courage to Heal," the Cowardice of Denialp. 42
100 Ways to Kill My Father, Give or Take 85p. 45
Trying to Show Kindness to the Inner Childrenp. 47
Chapter 4. Anger, Despair, Self-Hate, Binges June-November 1988p. 53
I Try to Hide, but They Still Find Mep. 56
Eddie and How He Diedp. 61
This Is Not What's Meant by a Rich Inner Lifep. 63
Feeling Abandonedp. 65
Chapter 5. My Man-of-Anger Takes Charge November 1988-April 1989p. 69
Massaging the Feelings Loosep. 71
A Child Molester in a Survivors' Groupp. 75
The Insiders and I Deal with Betrayalp. 78
The Return of Red: That's What You Get for Theorizingp. 81
Trauma, Ego States, and Why I'm Not a Multiplep. 85
Chapter 6. Sex Rears Several of Its Heads April-August 1989p. 91
Working It Out with Lindap. 95
Remembering Abuse, Reading About Recoveryp. 98
Big Honey, the Championp. 103
Grace, the Sexually Needyp. 106
Chapter 7. Earthquakes, Within and Without September-November 1989p. 111
Another Group, Another Perpp. 114
Torturep. 117
Loma Prietap. 119
Listening to the Insiders...and a Few Bureaucratsp. 122
Chapter 8. Q: The Memory of Pain December 1989-April 1990p. 129
Looking for Structure Among the Insidersp. 132
Memories in and out of Timep. 135
Hitting Bottom with Lindap. 140
Feeling Q's Painp. 144
Chapter 9. Frankie: Befriending the Monster May-October 1990p. 147
Talking About Sex--and Enjoying Somep. 149
A Workshop on Ego-State Therapyp. 152
Confront My Mother? The Insiders Say Nop. 154
All Ego States Have a Positive Functionp. 156
Working with Jack and Helen Watkinsp. 160
The Dad Introject Becomes Frankiep. 164
Chapter 10. Male at Risk October 1990-April 1991p. 169
Grace's Sexuality--and Minep. 171
More Depression, More Theory, More Denial...Less Sexp. 174
Choosing to Confront Momp. 182
Shut Downp. 186
Chapter 11. The "Oh, No!" Experience May-November 1991p. 191
Couples Therapyp. 193
Me and My Shadowp. 197
The Inner Pervert: Crystallizing My Sexual Conflictp. 199
Q's Sexuality--and Linda'sp. 201
Chapter 12. The Cost of Denial December 1991-May 1992p. 209
Being OK Sexually: Therapy for Christmas Hatersp. 211
Linda and I Deep in Each Other's Stuffp. 214
Pain, Screams, and Other Unfinished Businessp. 217
The Cost of Ignoring Momp. 221
Memoirs of a Child Prostitutep. 225
Chapter 13. Disintegration June-September 1992p. 229
Bobby and Red: The Insiders Prepare for Warp. 230
Oedipus and Ip. 234
"Moments of Healing": Working with Mariah Gladisp. 238
Die Soon, Mommyp. 240
Night of Horrorsp. 244
Chapter 14. Healing September-December 1992p. 249
"The Mother Wound Is Always Deepest"p. 252
Breaking the Fantasy Bondsp. 255
Another Christmas with the Insidersp. 260
Chapter 15. Burning Mom January-May 1993p. 265
Gestalt at Esalenp. 267
The Insiders Are Healing One Anotherp. 270
Putting the Anger Where It Belongsp. 273
Trusting the Processp. 277
Letting Mom Diep. 281
The Pyrep. 284
Postscriptp. 291
Bibliographyp. 297

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