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When anger hurts your relationship : 10 simple solutions for couples who fight
Paleg, Kim.
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Oakland, CA : New Harbinger Publications, [2001]

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140 pages ; 23 cm
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BF575.A5 P35 2001 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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When Anger Hurts Your Relationship is a first-aid manual for angry couples. Psychologists and best-selling authors Matthew McKay and Kim Paleg present an array of tools and strategies that couples can use to reduce conflict, diffuse intense rages, and move beyond repeated anger dynamics. Each chapter is chock-full of proven cognitive-behavioral techniques to help couples reconcile their differences and begin to heal from the hurt that's already been done.

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Kim Paleg, Ph.D., is a practicing psychologist specializing in couples and family therapy and codirector of the Redwood Center for Psychology Associates, Inc. in Berkeley, California. She is coauthor of several relationship self-help books, includingCouple SkillsandWhen Anger Hurts Your Kids.

Matthew McKay, Ph.D., is the clinical director of Haight Ashbury Psychological Services in San Francisco. McKay is coauthor of more than 14 self-help books, includingWhen Anger Hurts,The Anger control Workbook,Couple Skills, andThe Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook. In private practice, he specializes in the treatment of anger, anxiety, and depression.

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Paleg and McKay, practicing clinical psychologists and coauthors of Couple Skills, pinpoint pain and a resulting sense of helplessness as the roots of anger. By outlining individuals' and couples' basic cycles of hurt and anger, the authors expose the cracks in the armor and the methods of breaking the cycles. Focusing on preventing escalation, managing anger when it arises and repairing the situation after an old pattern takes hold, they espouse a one-day-at-a-time process of swearing off anger (via tension-release exercises, practicing empathy and identifying defensiveness), learning de-escalation tools (a Repair Checklist, an Anger Coping Plan) and regaining trust (by changing speech habits and concertedly giving pleasure). (Nov.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved