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The successful child : what parents can do to help kids turn out well
Sears, William, 1939-
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First edition.
Publication Information:
Boston : Little, Brown, [2002]

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x, 278 pages ; 24 cm.

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HQ755.8 .S44 2002 Adult Non-Fiction Parenting
HQ755.8 .S44 2002 Adult Non-Fiction Childrens Area-Family Place
HQ755.8 .S44 2002 Adult Non-Fiction Parenting

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In their latest book, the Searses bring the reason and common sense of their philosophy of parenting to the hurdles of raising the older child. Attachment parenting is not just for babies; as children grow, they need to expand the web of their secure attachments to friends, teachers, community and the wider world. As there is no single plan for any one family, the Searses show a range of ways a parent can retain a child's trust and wield a positive influence as their child matures. By following the advice laid out in this book, parents can see that the bonds they have nurtured since infancy will provide the anchor that will ground their children through the challenging teen years to adulthood.

Author Notes

William Sears, M.D., received his pediatric training at Harvard Medical School's Children's Hospital & Toronto's Hospital for Sick Children, the largest children's hospital in the world. He has practiced as a pediatrician for nearly thirty years & is a former assistant professor at the University of Southern California School of Medicine. He & Martha Sears are the parents of eight children.

(Bowker Author Biography)

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Sears, a pediatrician, provides advice on how parents can give children the tools they need to succeed in life. He begins by examining the connection parents develop with their children both before they are born and while they are young and most trusting, the connection that will develop their emotional and intellectual "tools." In the second half of the book, Sears advises parents on how to convert their children's good emotional habits into more specific skills needed for success--communication, compassion, health and fitness, and self-esteem. He focuses as much on developing spiritual values in children as steering them toward healthy diets and good study habits. Sears emphasizes that success cannot be measured simply by the attainment of good grades, career advancement, and wealth. He offers very solid advice, exercises, and evaluations to help parents guide their children from infancy through adolescence. --Vanessa Bush

Table of Contents

A Word from Dr. Billp. ix
Part I The Tools of Success
Chapter 1 What's Success?p. 3
The Real Meaning of Success
Turning Out Well--But with a Struggle
Creating the Capacity for Resilience
Chapter 2 Raising Connected Kidsp. 9
Getting Connected
Birth to One Year
Connecting Tools: Practice Attachment Parenting
Seven Attachment Tools: The Baby B's
Toddler Times: Getting More Connected
Three to Five Years: The Connected Preschooler
Five to Ten Years: Searching for Connections
How Attachment Parenting Helps Kids and Families Succeed
The Early Road to Success: How the Baby B's Translate into the Childhood C's
Chapter 3 Ten Family Discipline Practices of Kids Who Turned Out Wellp. 31
Practice Attachment Parenting
Give Children High-Investment Parenting
Frame Your Child Positively
Study Your Child
Provide Structure, Then Set Limits
Shape Rather than Control Your Child
Allow Appropriate Failures and Frustration
Just Say No!
Screen Persons of Significance
Expect a Lot from Your Child
Chapter 4 Giving Your Child a Smart Startp. 52
How Brains Grow
How Brains Grow Smarter
Twelve Ways to Build a Brighter Child
A Smart Womb Start
Smart Carrying
A Smart Nutritional Start
"Smart Talk"
Smart Responses
Smart Reading
Smart Music
Smart Play
Smart Toys
Discover How Your Child Is Smart
A Smart School Start
Smart Learning from Life
Chapter 5 Planting Healthy Sibling Relationshipsp. 82
Practice Attachment Parenting
Prepare the Expectant Sibling
Get Them Connected--Early
You're Special, Too!
Encourage Together-Alone Time
Convey the Behavior You Expect
Keep Siblings Connected
Get Them Behind the Eyes of Their Siblings
Avoid Comparisons
Play Favorites--Equally
Taunts and Teasing Not Allowed Here
Let Children Work Out Their Own Squabbles
Friends Come and Go, but Family Is Forever
Chapter 6 Raising Healthy Kidsp. 98
Nine Nutritional Tips for Success
Breastfeed Your Child as Long as Possible
Shape Young Tastes
Allow Grazing for Good Behavior
Keep Children Lean
Give Your Child a Brainy Breakfast
Give Your Child a Right-Fat Diet
Take Your Child Shopping
Feed Your Child's Immune System
Model Healthy Eating Habits
Keep Children Exercising
No Smoking, Please!
Working with Your Doctor
Part II Nurturing the Tools of Success
Chapter 7 The Compassionate Childp. 115
How to Teach Empathy: From Infancy Through Adolescence
Planting the Capacity to Care: How Infants Learn Empathy
Nurturing the Capacity to Care: Teaching Empathy to Toddlers and Preschoolers
Teaching School-Age Children to Care
Teaching Empathy and Compassion to Teens
Chapter 8 The Ability to Make Wise Choicesp. 136
Ages and Stages of Decision Making
Decisions for School-Age Children
Helping Your Child Develop Decision-Making Skills
Teaching the Moral Dimension
Learning to Let Go
Chapter 9 Teaching Children Communication Skillsp. 151
Helping Your Baby Communicate
Modeling Communication Skills
Understanding Nonverbal Communication
Communicating about Feelings
Listening Tips
Communicating Through Touch
Helping the Shy Child Blossom
Chapter 10 Raising a Responsible Childp. 171
A Responsible Beginning
Kids Need Chores
The Five Benefits of Chores
Give Your Child Responsibilities
From Being Responsible to Being Accountable
Teaching Children to Think and Plan Ahead
Putting Teens to Work: Why, When, How Much?
Chapter 11 Raising a Moral Childp. 187
How Children Learn to Make Moral Choices
Moral Kids Are Kids Who Care
How Children Develop Morals and Values
Preteens and Teens
Moral Norms
Helping Your Child Think and Act Morally
Spiritual Values
Raising a Spiritual Child
Twelve Ways to Guide Your Child's Spiritual Development
Chapter 12 Eleven Ways to Boost Your Child's Self-Confidencep. 208
Boost More Than Break a Child's Self-Belief
Build Baby's Self-Confidence
Mirror Positive Messages
Play with Your Child
Show and Tell Your Children That They're Important
Respect Your Child's Opinions
Stamp Out Put-Downs
Protect Your Child's Self-Confidence
Frame Your Child's Quirks Positively
Help Children Discover Their Special Something
Value Doesn't Depend Upon Performance
Chapter 13 Ten Ways to Encourage Your Childp. 226
Build a Strong Trust Relationship
Stamp Out Discouraging Words
Write Encouragers
Play the Erase Game
Give "We" Messages
Show Great Expectations
Push Rather than Pressure
Model an "I Can" Attitude
Learn from Mistakes
Help Your Child Get an A for Attitude
Chapter 14 Kindness and Mannersp. 237
Ten Ways to Teach Kindness and Manners
Teaching the Art of Apologizing
The Rewards of Being Kind
Chapter 15 Building Successful Sexualityp. 244
Teaching Sexuality Early
Fostering Healthy Gender Identity
Teen Sexuality
Chapter 16 How to Monitor Media and Technology Influencesp. 250
Taming the TV: Why and How
TV and Preschoolers
How Parents Can Monitor the TV
There's a Computer in My the My Hand!
Concerns about Computers
What Parents and Teachers Can Do
Video Violence Is Coming to a Screen Near You
Indexp. 267