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With love and prayers : a headmaster speaks to the next generation
Jarvis, F. Washington (Frank Washington), 1939-
First edition.
Publication Information:
Boston, Mass. : David R. Godine, [2000]

Physical Description:
xxiii, 344 pages ; 24 cm
General Note:
"Jarvis's addresses, reprinted from his school's publications...have been brought together in a single volume for wider circulation"--Jacket.
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Here, at Last, is a book of "uncommon common sense" for young people by someone who has worked with them for thirty-five years. F. Washington ("Tony") Jarvis is one of the nation's most eminent educators, now in his twenty-sixth year as headmaster of Boston's Roxbury Latin School, the oldest school in continuous existence in North America. Jarvis's approach is anecdotal. "If it is true that a picture is worth a thousand words, it is ten times as true when you are speaking with teenagers. They are gripped by the story of how real people cope with real situations. They are interested when you share with them the concrete realities of your own life and experience, and they are almost always willing to listen to adults who actually believe in something, who actually stand for something."

Author Notes

F. Washington Jarvis is a graduate of Harvard and Cambridge universities. He is an Episcopal priest and ran a city wide youth ministry for teenagers of all faiths (and none) at St. Paul's Church in Cleveland. After three years as history department chairman at University School in that city, he was elected headmaster of Boston's renowned Roxbury Latin School at the age of thirty-four. He has served as president of the Headmasters Association of the United States and as a member of the Massachusetts State Ethics Commission. For twenty-four years he has been priest associate at the Parish of All Saints in the inner-city Boston neighborhood of Dorchester. He was recently awarded an honorary doctorate by Bowdoin College

Table of Contents

The Rev. Prof. Peter J. Gomes
Forewordp. ix
Introductionp. xix
Part 1 The Search for Meaning
1 What Am I Doing Here?p. 3
2 Lies Teenagers Are Toldp. 10
3 Attitudep. 19
4 Stop--Look--Listenp. 27
5 More Than Meets the Eyep. 35
6 How Can I Be Happy?p. 42
7 The Pursuit of Happinessp. 50
8 Having Your Cake and Eating It Toop. 58
9 Great American Teenage Tragediesp. 67
10 In Praise of Martin Buberp. 76
11 The Spiritual Dimensionp. 86
12 Suspending Disbeliefp. 95
13 David and Goliathp. 102
14 Coping with Pressurep. 111
15 Standing On Our Own Two Feetp. 120
16 Sometimes I Get Discouragedp. 127
17 Through the Valley of the Shadowp. 135
18 The Journey of the Magip. 145
Part 2 Values to Live By
19 A Memory of My Fatherp. 157
20 Faithp. 165
21 Hopep. 175
22 Charityp. 184
23 Divine Irresponsibilityp. 191
24 Committees of Onep. 200
25 Thoughts on Vince Lombardip. 208
26 The Life of the Mindp. 217
27 Unless You Become Like a Childp. 226
28 Beyond Self-Absorptionp. 234
29 Manners Makyth Manp. 242
30 Three Phrases to Live Byp. 251
31 Getting Away With Murderp. 259
32 The Fine Art of Rationalizationp. 269
33 The Road to Hell is Paved With Good Intentionsp. 279
34 Three Pieces of Bad Advicep. 288
35 Friendshipp. 297
36 Leadershipp. 305
37 Leadership--2p. 313
38 "We Live in a Rapidly Changing World"p. 320
39 Anything Worth Doing Is Worth Doing Badlyp. 330
40 Tough and Tenderp. 337