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Should we stay together? : a scientifically proven method for evaluating your relationship and improving its chances for long-term success
Larson, Jeffry H.
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San Francisco : Jossey-Bass, [2000]

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xxi, 185 pages : illustrations ; 24 cm
Myths about preparing for marriage -- The marriage triangle : three factors that predict your future marital satisfaction -- The marriage triangle, factor 1 : your personal and relationship contexts -- The marriage triangle, factor 2 : your individual traits -- The marriage triangle, factor 3 : your couple traits -- Your own personal marriage triangle : putting the three factors together -- Whom and when not to marry!
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The fact is, some couples need more time to mature, some need to work through specific issues, and some should never be together. But how do you know? What factors add up to success-or failure-in a relationship? Author Jeffry Larson knows; in fact, he knows a lot about what predicts a happy marriage. Based on Larson's twenty-plus years of research and experience in marriage and family therapy, Should We Stay Together?debunks many time-honored myths as it provides couples with the tools they need to make better decisions and thoroughly explore every aspect of their relationship. From individual characteristics, idiosyncratic family histories, unresolved conflicts and needs, and combined strengths and weaknesses, this step-by-step scientific method for relationship evaluation-based on the highly accurate RELATE premarital assessment questionnaire-will help couples understand the specific traits that predict a satisfying-or disastrous-relationship.

Author Notes

Jeffry H. Larson is professor and director of the marriage and family therapy graduate programs at Brigham Young University

Table of Contents

Robert F. Stahmann, Ph.D.
Forewordp. xi
Acknowledgmentsp. xiii
Introductionp. xv
1 Myths About Preparing for Marriagep. 1
Myths: What Are They?
Debunking the Myths
Moving Beyond the Myths: What We Know
2 The Marriage Triangle: Three Factors That Predict Your Future Marital Satisfactionp. 13
Personal and Relationship Contexts
Individual Traits
Couple Traits
Assessment and the Marriage Triangle
3 The Marriage Triangle, Factor 1: Your Personal and Relationship Contextsp. 27
Family-of-Origin Influences
Personal Context
Relationship Contexts
External and Internal Pressures: What Are They?
An Overview of All Contextual Factors
Evaluating Your Own Test Results
4 The Marriage Triangle, Factor 2: Your Individual Traitsp. 67
Personality Traits Related to Marital Satisfaction
Dysfunctional Beliefs Related to Marital Dissatisfaction
Scoring and Interpretation Guidelines: Individual Traits
Dysfunctional Beliefs That Influence Marital Satisfaction
5 The Marriage Triangle, Factor 3: Your Couple Traitsp. 95
Couple Communication Assessment
The Importance of Similarities
The Importance of Acquaintanceship
Living Together
Premarital Sex and Pregnancy
The Importance of Communication
Evaluating Your Own Test Results
6 Your Own Personal Marriage Triangle: Putting the Three Factors Togetherp. 147
Using the Summary Sheet
Completing Your Own Summary Sheet
7 Whom and When Not to Marry!p. 163
Types to Avoid
Red Light Indicators
8 Other Resources for Marriage Preparationp. 171
Context Resources
Individual Traits Resources
Couple Traits Resources
In Conclusionp. 179
Notesp. 181
The Authorp. 185