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Respecting your limits when caring for aging parents
Greenberg, Vivian E.
Personal Author:
Uniform Title:
Your best is good enough
First Jossey-Bass paperback edition.
Publication Information:
San Francisco : Jossey-Bass, 1998.

Physical Description:
xv, 172 pages ; 24 cm
General Note:
Originally published: Your best is good enough. Lexington, Mass. : Lexington Books, c1989.

Format :


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HQ1063.6 .G74 1989 Adult Non-Fiction Non-Fiction Area

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Vivian Greenberg explains how to understand and accept the limits of what we can do for our parents. With insight and skill, she offers valuable information on how to recognize unrealistic expectations how to get our siblings to share responsibilities how to cope with difficult parents. This updated and revised edition also includes advice on what role reversal really means as our parents grow older; why our own family should come first and what to do about loyalty conflicts; and how to deal with the sadness and pain that accompanies the decision to place a parent in a nursing home.

Author Notes

VIVIAN E. GREENBERG has a private practice in Pennington, New Jersey, and is a featured columnist in Answers, a magazine for adults with aging parents. She conducts workshops and lectures throughout the country on the stresses of caregiving and the relationship problems between middle-aged adults and their elderly parents.

Table of Contents

3 The Elder Parent-Adult Child Bond
2 What Do People Want From Us, Anyway?
3 Setting Limits
4 Unrealistic Expectations
5 Role Reversal
6 What About Brothers and Sisters?
7 The Manipulative Parent
8 Seeing Our Parents as People
9 Children without the Gift of Caring
10 Who Comes First?
11 That Unexpalined Anger
12 The Hardest Decision of All
13 The Second Hardest Decision
14 "Difficult Parents"
15 Depression and the Elderly
16 Honor Thy Mother and Thy Father: Help and Hope
Appendix A Offices on Aging
Appendix B What is a "Professional Geriatric Care Manager"?
Appendix C Levels of Care
Appendix D Family Service America
Appendix E Patient Education Aid
Appendix F Children of Aging Parents (CAPS)
Appendix G Resources for Caregivers