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How to avoid the mommy trap : a roadmap for sharing parenting and making it work
Shields, Julie.
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Sterling, VA : Capital Books, [2002]

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xiv, 238 pages ; 23 cm
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Typically, when a woman gets pregnant, she considers whether to give up or cut back on her career, or surrender her child to daycare or a nanny. Now families have other alternatives. Fathers can stay home, work flexibly, go part-time, or help out so stay-at-home-mothers enjoy personal fulfillment too. Prepared women can choose the lives they want by following the common sense prescriptions in "How to Avoid the Mommy Trap." Julie Shields interviewed marital counselors, childcare workers, negotiation experts, employers, child development experts, and parents to find out how to create a family balance. How to Avoid the Mommy Trap emphasizes real-life solutions and strategies, and highlights common missteps. Weaving research and anecdote together, Julie Shields demonstrates the value and efficacy of a new parenting paradigm - sharing. This sensible primer is for every parent thinking about having children but wondering if and how to balance work, parenthood, and life. Author Events August 15, 2003 - WCUB Breakfast Club, 10 a.m. August 26, 2003 - WFHR Radio, 10 a.m. August 27, 2003 - WBKC, 8:30a.m. August 29, 2003 - KLPW Radio, 12:10 p.m. September 12, 2003 into September 13, 2003 - WBZ Radio, 1 a.m. September 13, 2003 - WFAS "Here's to Your Good Health," 11 a.m. September 27, 2003 - KTKK Interviews & Interactions with Linda Strasberg, 5:30 p.m. October 29, 2003 - Speaking Engagement at the 92nd Street Y in New York City November 1, 2003 - WFHG 92.7 FM / WXBQ "The Barbara McFaddin Show," 10am

Author Notes

Julie Shields is an intellectual property attorney and freelance writer. She has successfully lobbied her employer for more flexible work arrangements and is spearheading an effort to improve federal employees' parental leave options. Shields has written textbooks on copyright and trademark law and her articles and essays have appeared in Oxygen Media and in many other publications. She lives with her husband and their two daughters in McLean, Virginia. This is her first book.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgmentsp. ix
Introductionp. xi
Part 1 If it's Broke, Fix it
1 There's Still A Long Way To Go, Babyp. 3
2 Why Quality Substitute Care Is Not a Complete Answerp. 17
3 Yes, Men Can, and It Will Be Good for Them, Toop. 31
Part 2 Before You Say, "I Do"
4 Negotiation 101p. 47
5 Think about Work and Family Issues before Angling for the Ringp. 61
6 Marital Calisthenics: Building a More Perfect Unionp. 77
Part 3 While You're Still Just the Happy Couple
7 Look before You Throw Away the Birth Controlp. 93
8 Men Must Get Involved Early: Rethinking Maternity and Paternity Leavep. 109
9 Divide and Conquer Your New Rolesp. 125
Part 4 If you Already Have Kids
10 Getting Unstuckp. 143
11 Strategies That Work: More on Mommy Letting Gop. 157
12 Sharing the Career Accommodationp. 173
13 Laws That Can Helpp. 189
Notesp. 203
Resourcesp. 227
Indexp. 231